First of all, why do you want her back? Is it just because of the challenge, that she makes you feel like you can't have her? You are afraid of losing? It sounds like you both started out in a sexual relationship and became close that way, then you both began to drift apart because you have different interests or one or both are not ready for that exclusive relationship with just one person yet..She feels "smothered" and "neglected by you"..you sees that you are finished with college and yet are not working, that you are back with "mommy and daddy"...maybe she sees you as being a little immature...don't email her with any specifics..you are going to have to SHOW her not tell her...show her that you are mature, show her what she wants is you, not by words but by your actions..don't beg...you can tell her that you love her, you can tell her that mistakes were made along the way that you are sorry about, that you know you both have some growing up to do and that you are working on yourself to become a better person...you can tell her you would like to see her adventure out into the world and find her true self, you can tell her that you really do want to spend time with her but not stifle her creativity..tell her that you are seeking to find your true identity as well..maybe you should think about getting a job and doing your online thing in your spare time when you are off work..and move out from mom and dad and get your own apartment..she wants to see you as an independent man with new ideas, someone who is evolving at least..don't be a clinging vine..be your own person...don't think that a poem or flowers will undo negative things from the past...when you become more mature and independent, she will see you as more appealing and may be more interested in taking you back...you sound young...you have plenty of time...you and this girl may not be made to be together, lots of young people have that sexual closeness with each other but not a lot else in common...give it some time and work on yourself, not on the relationship...don't do or say things to make her mistrust you, like trying to make her jealous..the best relationship is one built on trust and friendship first..if it is meant to be, it will happen...don't get into any serious relationships right now...and don't go around sleeping with girls you barely met just to make yourself feel better...you could end up a "baby daddy" and that lasts a lifetime..if you are going to have children, it should be with someone you click with and are married to first...nothing is worse for a child to grow up without 2 parents who love each other first and then produce this wonderful little human being...I have seen so many unhappy children born of relationships built mostly from sex.. work on becoming a man..you sound like an educated person who is very capable of doing that...that is what she needs to see before you continue to pursue anything else with her..let her do that, too...good luck...becky
