Need a relationship counselors help on this one

We all like to believe that we have found someone to love forever! Sometimes this is true! You just might love them forever but,  that doesn't mean you'll be together during that forever! She sounds like she has been weening you off of her and slowly trying to let you go and most likely because she do care for you. We out grow one another, we grow apart and in opposite directions...love is hard especially if it's one sided. For her the fantasy phase has passed. For you the reality phase is just starting to make itself known. STAY FORWARD THINKING!

listen;

You need to give her the space she request. If she wants you then she will come back. But you not giving her a moment to miss you.

Looks like you both have already done what needs to be done.  "BROKE UP" as painful at it seems to be right now, you should focus on yourself right now and your new buisness venture.  You can't make someone else want you, if they no longer want you.  I would promise myself to honor what you told her.  You understand, and you will respsect her decision.  I would not text her, nor call her anymore, even if she called me.  If you just have to talk to her keep it simple and honest.  Tell her the pain you have suffered as well, and it might be a good idea if you both just went your own seperate ways for now.  And let her know she is free to date or see anyone she wants, remember! you don't own her, and vice-versa.

Since you two are still pretty young, I would not spend so much time focused on a broken heart right now.  Instead you should surround yourself with positive friends, and experiences at this stage.  Try to focus on the good that came out of that relationship with one another, and perhaps try a few casual dates.

Good Luck,

Angel

YoungEntrepreneur, this is a difficult situation.

First of all, she really does need that time to find out who she is and what she wants out of life, even if that means hooking up with guys.

The only reason she wrote that about the girls on Facebook is because she is jealous, she doesn't want you right now, but she can't bear the thought of you being with anyone else.

What you need to say back to that is "well it wasn't my choice to seperate from you, and I would be with you again in a heartbeat if possible. BUT these are my friends, so do not talk about them so disrespectfully like that please."

Simple enough. The fact is, if she WANTED TO BE WITH YOU SHE WOULD BE WITH YOU. Do not put any more pressure on her. You have done all you can on your side - sent flowers and a poem. Any more is just overkill.

Two peole grow emotionally together in love and commitment, you seemed to have wanted a commitment,whereas she would of needed to have had both love and commitment to make the relationship work for her. But then as I look at your relationship , she could only offer you friendship, and she felt smothered by too much attention on your part, and she needed her own space for emotional growth. Yet you are blessed by having known such a wonderful woman.

Son, you are a beautiful person. One I would adore as a son in law. But you are still young, as is she. It doesnt sound like she is abandoning you...it sounds like she is an intelligent young woman with dreams and goals and aspirations...No wonder you want to keep her. But right now, you are attempting to trim her feathers. Wouldnt it be better to see her soar up in the sky, to achieve all that she so desires, to smile knowing she is right where she is supposed to be??? Your love for her is true, no doubt. So empower those you love. Your encouragement as a friend will be remembered for a lifetime. But if you attempt to cage her when she wants to be free...she will fly away.

 Can you sacrifice a relationship for long term friendship?? She keeps coming back to you for reassurance, give her that and she will keep flying back to you for more if you selflessly give her what she needs. Time to grow into a wonderful person.

And by the way young man, make sure you do have friendships that encourage you to be all you aspire to be. So when you have grown  into a well adjusted, intelligent, prosperous, every Mamma's dream Son in Law....your positive karma will bring someone able to give you as much love as you want to give.

May the Angels frolic in your dreams

Rana...age 46, single and happy

She has told you over and over again that she is not interested in continuing a relationship with you. If you re-read your post, you will see that very clearly. So, No, I think you should not respond back. You have a lot going for you and you seem to have a lot going on in your life right now, regardless of whether your ex is a part of it or not. It also sounds as if she has a lot of "stuff" going on in her life as well -- and it is causing you more problems -- you can't force a relationship.   Focus on taking care of yourself and accomplishing all of your goals and meeting up with new people and I think you will be a lot happier!