Need help dealing with jealousy/competitiveness with female co-workers!!!

look sweetheart. other bitches flaunt themselves made them selves look good and they express themselves in loud tones of voices, u know they try to make other people jealouse or feel like nothing but the more you pay attention to them the more stupid they going to act... so am not telling you to be stuck up..just act normal concetrate on your job and dont worry about a got dam thing .u probably have a husband anyways.. so dont let no one bring you donw by paying attention to them pay attention to you ..ok is ther anything else let me know...truzz239@live.com.

Being insecure is the crux of your problem.  A lot of times men are insecure around women who are smart.  Men fear that the women are smarter than they are.  Sometimes that is true and sometimes not.  If you can work on your insecurities you would be able to let what woman do roll off your shoulders.  When people are insecure about themselves almost everything in life is bothersome.  Perhaps you may need to visit a counselor to talk about these insecurities of yours and work them out.  Then, you will be free from this nagging problem.  If you are good at your job then that is all that should matter.  As far as women flaunting themselves that is usually what women do when they are around a lot of men.  Women are very competitive especially in the work place.  That is their insecurities at work.  I hope this helps you.

Have you read the book Dianetics? You should and you will understand exactly why you react that way. You can also find out more about it by checking out this site: www.dianetics.org

Tasha,

May I suggest that you keep reminding yourself that you are there to perform a job, and that that is the only reason you are there. You are not there to compete with the other females.

In my view, the best way to improve your self image in this case is to do the best job you can do, and let the petty stuff related to your fellow female co-workers take care of itself. Let it go!

As a retired global director who managed literally hundreds of women over my career -- and with apologies to those very special professional women for whom this was not true -- I can tell you that the #1 thing that drives male supervisors nuts is this exact issue, i.e., insecure women who require constant attention and stroking in order to keep peace in the office, which drags down productivity and raises blood pressure, stress levels, etc.

Look -- You were hired because somebody felt you were the best-qualified to do a certain job in a certain position. So be the best you can be in that role, and save the competing with the other females for outside the office. By doing so, not only will you be part of making the company successful by being such a conscientious worker, but your self image should take a very positive hit knowing that are contributing and helping make the company successful.

As for the rest? Let it go ...

-wpf

You know the answer yourself, since you just admitted it in your question. You mentioned that you have low self-esteem and feel insecure. Well then, what can you expect from anyone else? You need to improve on those things you can. Don't you EVER say you can't help feeling this way. Apparently you have your eye sight, your limbs, and can walk so you have no reason to feel the way you do girl. WORK ON YOURSELF. You only succeed when you try.