I work for a company that is predominantly men. There are two other women in the office besides me and the rest are all men. Even the customers are 99% men that walk thru the door. I guess my prob is that I dont like working with other women. Before anyone says anything I know that it is a reality that I would have to work with women on some level etc so I am aware of that I just hate it!!! lol
One is in her early 30's and the other early 40's. I am the youngest one here I'm 25. The 3 of us all sit in the same area as eachother so I have to see and hear them all day!!! On and off all day they are whispering to eachother and it is so obnxious and immature, one is always on and off the phone and being all quiet and secretive about it, they both kiss major ass with the bosses, and me, that isnt me, I refuse to kiss anyones ass! I do my work, yes, I like to yuck it up with the guys and goof off with them but I get my work DONE and I do a good job at what I do!!! But it seems and appears that the oldest one always has to dress like she thinks shes my age, she looks for reasons to get up and walk around so she can as I have come to the conclusion get attention..she sees and hears me get compliments and get attention and what not and it seems like shes doing little things here and there that she probably thinks arent obvious and completely lame and desperate but I can see it!!! Women know and can see other women for what and how they really are and what they are up to. Like for example, this one guy that was a customer that I liked and was talking to, if I was out in the counter area talking to him or what not and I would be out there for a bit she would come out and walk by us or say something to me, I know how women are so I know that she was just trying to get attention. Ever since a few months ago when I started talking to that guy now all of a sudden for the past few months I have noticed that when she steps away from her desk to do anything she will take her glasses off, she wears glasses for whatever reason, but I started to notice that she would take her glasses off when before she didnt seem to care and would just leave them on all the time. hmmm??? Then she talks like she hates her body and wouldnt feel comfortable wearing dresses to work then BAM one day she walks in with a sleevless dress on to work...hmmm???
I have an idea of what is going on...and I will be honest and admit that it irks me and it does make me angry/upset and wish those two women werent here and it was just me working here. I do get jealous and all, I hate it when I see the guys checking one of them out or make a comment to or about one of them, (I get alot of attention and comments etc by the majority of the guys here..so its not like its all them...its more towards me then either of them to be honest) and that is the way that I have pretty much always been. But still the way that these two are and act just drives me nuts!!! Any advice or tips on how to deal with this and get over it????
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Hey Tasha, how's it going girl? It sounds as if they are jealous of you and since you're not the boss and can't fire them, I suggest try making friends with them and if you can't be friends at least try to be friendly with them. Working together is kind of like being in a relationship, it takes two people trying and since you're spending a lot of time with these girls what do you have to lose? What do you think?
For getting all your work "DONE," you spend an inordinate amount of time watching the other women and reporting and knowing minute by minute what they do. Just stop, because it sounds a little like you're the one jealous. She wore a dress, so what? If you liked it, did you compliment her? The other poster is right. This is a relationship. If they're jealous, they're jealous. No biggy to you. Just be friendly, helpful if they need it, continue working and being yourself and stop sinking to their level. They can come to work in bikinis if they want. Either they are attractive to someone or they aren't. Most importantly, it just isn't your business. You're being paid to get a job done. Not watch the other women in the office which --- sorry... sounds like you're watching the "competition" and judging them because they are.
Stop trying to one up anyone and if they continue, they look silly, not you. You have a long work life ahead of you.
What goes around comes around. You're 25. What if a 22 year old comes in who is drop dead gorgeous and a rocket scientist to boot and replaces the 40 year old? Her clothes are cute, her personality shines.... see? It all comes back to you just being YOU. No matter how anyone else acts. Trust me, it will stand out. And so will that fact you work and aren't using work to conduct your personal calls.
But remember this. At this age you're complaining someone uses the phone too much at work. How do you know you aren't seeing yourself in 5-10 years? Mostly, remember how you feel right now and don't become it.
*Kat
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