Good answer bonestructure.
I wanted to ask about children still living in house. Whose name is it in and why can't you live there, since you paid so many debts for them from your ex and as their father, if they dont have alot money but if they drive, they should take you to the doctors or anywhere you want to go. You helped them now you need them to help you
Check in everything that bonestructure said and
Also check with disability & social security for help. And salvation army. If neither one of you was re-married at the time of her death, i believe you would get a ss check for being widower.
Good luck to you at this time and my condolence to you your family for your loss.
God bless
Nanadee 