Looking for advice about an ex that I still really am head over heals for. My ex, who is also my first boyfriend, and I dated for almost 5 years, he was going to propose then got nervous and broke up. At the time we were still pretty young and I was his first girlfriend as well, so he broke it off and said we needed to see what else was out there before we got married. That said that was about 10 years ago. At the time we still went to school on the same campus, so we saw eachother off and on, I met another guy and was dating this other guy long distance, then one day that guy hit me, I found out after that, that my ex confronted him on it. Later, I ended up having a child with this other guy which I was with at that point about 4 years and then the relationship started falling apart. My ex started talking to me again for and talked me through the break up with this other guy, then we lost touch for about 1 to 2 years. After that time, we started talking to eachother on iM and on the phone as we lived a distance away, we both wanted to see eachother though, but it didn't work out, and we lost touch again as he met a local girl that he started dating. He dated her for almost 3 years, now about two months ago, they split up and we have been talking/iM'ing for a couple weeks again now. He asked me on iM the other night how my dating scene was going. Does it sound like he is interested in a possible relationship again? What are the signs that I should look for to show he is interested? And how does a person approach the subject of getting back together, without misinterpreting something and scaring the other person away? After 10 years I still think about this guy ALOT and believe whole heartedly that we were ment to be together. We otherwise have always had a great connection, have supported eachother and we have never really faught about anything, he was my friend for about 3 years, before we had ever got into a relationship and I like it when we start talking, and don't want to lose that.
How do I find the time?
My first reaction to this story was that you guys sound like star crossed lovers who were destined to be together but things have always got in your way and now is your chance to finally be happy!
I then wondered to myself, why are you so nervous about admiting your feelings to him, how could that scare him away after all this time! If he is the type of guy who would run a mile at your declaration of love, then he is not the man for you.
The romantic in me hopes my 1st reaction is true. Go for it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Good luck
My heart tells me you should bring it up, maybe just ask if he ever thought about getting back together. That way you bring up the subject with out suggesting it so no harm done. At least you'll have an idea if you should work on it or forget it. Best wishes to you, it maybe awesome but you won't know if you don't try.
you are young wait time is in your side. not with someone as old as me. thier alot fish in the ocean. just wait i found the right one after 50ty. you have time
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