Hi, I broke up with my fiance just less than two ...

thanks for sharing. I recently broke up too. And I thought of him for a long time afterwards, but finally realized that it is for the best that we move on. Just consider it a fresh start to your life and keep those treasured memories you had with her in your heart forever.

There will be someone else, as surely as the sun will wise tomorrow. In the time we had with each other, oh, so short that time is. years fly by in the blink of an eye.. and all we have are the memories..

Hi Cal, Sometimes when we are in a situation, it`s hard for us to see whats going on, but after a break-up we get the chance to reflect, stand back, and look at the big picture. You need to convey to her that this is what you have done, and throw yourself at the mercy of the court. Tell her that you HAVE looked at the big picture and have seen the error of your ways. Tell her that you take full responsibility and want to make things right....then ask her to marry you again! Best of luck to you Cal, and I hope that it works out for the both of you.

I hear the anguish and it makes me sad.  The reality is, though, this is where you both are right now.  Sometimes a little space is a very good - albeit painful - thing.  If it turns out she really needs to move on, you must accept that and may-be learn something from the whole experience. (That, by the way applies to us all at some time or other.)  On the other hand, she may find that she needs you and is willing to work things out.  Give yourself and her some time and space.  Try to keep the lines of communication open.  And best of luck!

I hear the anguish and it makes me sad.  The reality is, though, this is where you both are right now.  Sometimes a little space is a very good - albeit painful - thing.  If it turns out she really needs to move on, you must accept that and may-be learn something from the whole experience. (That, by the way applies to us all at some time or other.)  On the other hand, she may find that she needs you and is willing to work things out.  Give yourself and her some time and space.  Try to keep the lines of communication open.  And best of luck!

some times we don't realize what we have untill they are not with us. If you and her took care of each other then you did something right.There is a high percentage of us humans that would not go back because of commitment but if you invested three years of your life to each other -ups and downs- are normal and thats a lot of time invested.Whether you start over or not way out your issues and pick and chose your battles that are important before your issues do this again. THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK OR ACT.If she has moved on then you have knowledge and wisdom of what works or not.Theres a 80% of a person you cant change. 20% the person has to want to make changes to make things work thats the 80-20 rule.I dont know what relligion you are but if you beleive in G-d then you have to get better to make some one life better.

Peter said it the best; and if you'll forgive me, so did the Stones -

"You can't always get what you want; but if you try sometimes, you get what you need"

I have always come out a better man, if I changed the things that I knew were a problem. For myself, not for her. If you can get to the point of seeing all sides of a situation, honestly; then you are a winner. Since you broke up, she has also been given the chance to look at things from a different perspective. From a distance. She may not want to help put things back together; and that is her right. If you feel remorse for actions, and consequences; then you are so much closer to knowing true love for what it is. If you can act without causing pain, well; thats' the goal. Practically impossible; but worth a shot. It's feeling every beat of your heart. And others.

Hi cal, your on the right track honey. Most girls would kill for a guy that cares or thinks like you, you could get her a copy of your letter on the post to her would be a good start. That would be her outside view of what your feeling. If you want her put your whole heart on it. Have a beautiful day :)

heya,

what you just wrote was beautiful,i think you need to tell al this to your ex fiance.she needs to know that you really do still love her and are not going to change you mind again!she obviously still loves you if you and her went out for 3years !sometimes space is good,so mayb this 5 weeks we'll make her see that you are the one for her!

i hope it works out between you two!

best wishes,tell me how it goes,

frenchiexxxx