I have often times asked myself the same question. i have a 13 year and a 9 year old, both girls. and i swear we fight almost everyday. they seem to try and go against everything i say, or ask them to do.  i remember being a teen, and i know it was difficult, but now going thru it as a mother, OMG! i just pray that i make it, and that i am successful in helping my daughters become well adjusted, productive citizens...