I have never had a problem with my teenage daughter. or my teenage son. I doesnt have to be tense. I think we are scared for them because this world is not what it was when we were young. Its so much harder to be a teen in 2009. We try to protect them, and sometimes they take that as we dont trust them. When they start down a road that will get them no where, we need to let them stray alittle, but always be in the shadow to protect them. Letting them make their own mistakes, but being there in case its a mistake that will alter their life in a negative way. I am very strict, but not as strict as my parents, I always have my childrens back and they no that. But if they get out of line they know that every decision they make will have a consequence, they need to figure out if it is worth it, most times they see that no it isnt worth it. My daughter will be 17 in two weeks. Up untill now she has never been in a car with a boy, never had a car date, in two weeks her boundries will change, but I no how I raised her. I trust I did a good job. They are only a teenager for a short time, You dont need to fight, you really dont. Please dont put anger between you both, you are teaching her how to be a woman,and mother. Trust the job you did Good luck    Susan H-K