Mothers, teenage daughters

I think that in truth, anyone can fight.  I think though, that finding a healthy balances between good parenting and taking a step back, a parent being firm but still cool, open minded but with moral standards... teenage life is very difficult for both the teenager and for the parents.  Mothers want to understand and be there for their teenage girls, but teens sometimes don't want help.  They don't realize that the parents were teens once too.  The parent may want to help too much, and enforce the way they were when they were teens on their kids, or force their kids to be the way they wish they were when they were teens.  This is a complex issue, but to make it short, it's certainly a difficult time for teens and parents... but they get past it usually.

I think it's because many times the mother wants to make sure the teenager doesn't make the same mistakes she made. The teenager on the other hand wants to live her life independently and doesn't understand why her mother has to interfere with everything. The mother wants the best for her child but many times it's about who knows best.

I think it is because they are too much a like.  I know my daughter hates to be compared to Mom.  They are wanting to be independent and they need to make their own mistakes and not be told "I told you so" 

We Mom's are human and we do make mistakes too.  We do our best to guide them and help them perpare for the real world as scarey at it gets.

I have often times asked myself the same question. i have a 13 year and a 9 year old, both girls. and i swear we fight almost everyday. they seem to try and go against everything i say, or ask them to do.  i remember being a teen, and i know it was difficult, but now going thru it as a mother, OMG! i just pray that i make it, and that i am successful in helping my daughters become well adjusted, productive citizens...