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Mixed Signals

I have been hooking up with a friend of mine lately who I get along with great and like a lot, but know he’s a player. We have an agreement that we have great sex and therefore should be friends with benefits. I am taking a break from relationships after a really intense break up a couple months ago. Last night he stopped by and we hadn’t seen each other in almost a week because I was away on a business trip. When we were together last night, he was being too sweet. I try to act casual and friendly, but he says things like “I missed you, did you miss me,” or “you are so wonderful and amazing in every way, especially in bed.” He is always complimenting me in ways beyond what “fwb’s” should. I am doing ok now, but I am an emotional person and with all of his sweet kisses, and his desire to cuddle and share everything with me etc, I’m getting mixed signals. Is he interested in something more or just a very intimate person?

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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,


A tough question..... In order to give you a good answer one has to know him much better.  It could be yes (he is interested in something more) or no (he is simply a very intimate person).  Why be in doubt ? - Discuss it with him.  Prepare the setting (you know what he likes), prepare what and how are you going to say, and tell him.....  Start by saying that you enjoy being with him and how GR8 he is.  Then tell him that somehow he confuses you (now you'll have to give him 2-3 examples) and you'll appreciate if he will be open & true and give you a better idea (so you'll have a better chance to navigate yourself).  Be sensetive and smart (don't be pushy) listen (actively) to what he says and how he says it.... Go for it, it's not time to be shy and confused.... you have all the rights to know......   My intuition says you'll have a big (possitive) surprise.  Don't forget to invite me to your wedding.  Deal ?
Best regards,

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A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. 

It sounds like he's trying to make sure you're ok with just being friends with benefits or if you're likely to get attached. I mean, saying things like you're great in bed after not seeing you for a week screams "I want to get laid" not "I like you more than just friends with benefits." I'd talk to him about it. Be straight about it so no one gets hurt.


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