Girl,maybe you SHOULD be strong and loud.You are entitled to your opinion and your opinion is that she treats you like crap instead of the mother of her grandchildren.I was married to a chronic cheater and liar who's mother never accepted me because I was a model.I never took my clothes off,but she decided I was a whore and sported a black veil on our wedding day.Towards the end of that (brief) marriage,I told the bitch exactly how I felt.She was a trailer trash harpy who was simply pea green jealous.This is probably true about your MIL too.You have children who aren't (hopefully) on drugs or shacked up with girls who'll turn tricks for a bump.Your husband loves you and has remained by your side for many years.If she cannot respect you in your home,tell her she simply isn't invited.Good luck hon!