Is it ok to marry someone even if you're not sure they're THE ONE?
In my opinion this issue is filled with question marks. I think If you will wait to be 100% sure you can find yourself in a" never ending chase " after the "one". Time is a serious player here too. Sometime in a beginning of a relationship you feel so sure and secure about uniting with this person and later on after a while you two are together you can't believe you even thought about it. People say "fallow your heart ..." in these situations. I guess there is something about trusting that one thing that keeps us alive regarding love because love is also what makes us feel we are living either when we are filled with joy or covered with sadness. In the end you also need to be reasonable to see if that person is also capable of maintaining a household ,to take care of your needs ,kids etc. If you already made a decision about your partner you should always remind yourself of the reasons that brought you to this decision and convince yourself that you are with him/her for the right reason or turn to the other option which is very common today divorce.
I hope I didn't confuse you much...
I think it is OK. I'm sure many people do it.
Have you ever known that someone is indeed "the one"? I always had doubts. Sometimes more, sometimes less, but I was never 100% sure.
When I married my husband I was 200% sure he was the one for me.
I am physically atttracted to him, we're very compatible, meaning enjoying the same life style (how much you need to relax or go out and be social with friends) we both have the same goals wanting to have a family after a few years of marriage and travel. Nobody is perfect however, you need to ask yourself if you can accept and live with the other persons flaws. We all have them. My husband can get really tunnel visioned and doesn't handle stress well and tends to neglect the partnership without meaning too. But since he's a great listener and not intentionally doing it, I can help him to be aware and still make time for a hug and a kiss and looking into each others eyes for a moment.
Life can get in the way sometimes and it takes effort to nurter any relationship. I think you should use your heart for the attraction and physical aspects but your head and brain to check how compatible you are and then make your decision. Hope this helps.
I also found my hubby on eHarmony where they match you up based on compatibility then I just needed to feel attracted to a compatible candidate and Bam I found my husband. It was awesome and still is!
No, plain and simple if they think that you are the one and you don't feel the same you are waisting thier time. Why would you think that it is ok to break some ones heart in the future. grow up
Well if you think how many millions of people there are in the world and the chances of two coming together who are compatible - the law of averages means that you are fortunate indeed if you find someone you can get along with for the rest of your life.
I would say that since it is a primitive instinct apparently relying on things like appearance and pheromones and other little complications we know nothing of - if you are feeling instinctively in your gut that this person is not for you - then rather not marry them. Better to be safe than sorry. If in doubt = don't.
no. love n marrige takes time. wait till u think the person is the one. then ull be happy.
Don't do that. it will be the biggest mistake of your life. wait to you are sure that that person is the one.
No. Why would you settle for that? I know someone that did that and they are rotten stinking miserable because they thought they could "learn" to make him the one. Guess what, she wishes she were single.
what r ur expectaions? why u think that ur too good for him? r u sure ur that perfect? look at ur self then expect things from others. marriage is like a watermellon, green looks ripe, red from inside u think it looks sweet, until u try it, then u'll find out.
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