Is it common for a wife to choose a best friend over her spouse? It seems that my wife would rather take her best friend to a doctor's appointment instead of me. The day before she said that she would be home at a certain time and showed up almost 5 hours later just to change clothes and be gone for almost another 2 hours. Her best friend has anxiety problems and so does my wife, but why can't I be the one to be able to go with her to places like the doctor's office?