Married and need help!

No, no, no, no and NO!

Furthermore, if you think you have been in a "really good relationship" for over ten years but your husband has been pestering you to have threesomes for most of those 10 years, then something is up and it's most likely your husband's interest in another woman.

I strongly urge you to say NO!

JaJa, when reading your post what's most interesting to me is that you are more concerned that you may be bisexual, rather than being worried that your husband desires sex with another woman. That says to me that you are reasonably secure in your marriage.

"but i am so scare to do this, thinking i mite like it since i have a thing for girls"

My opinion is that you are extremely curious about what it would be like to be with another woman and your husbands 3some desires provide you with an excuse to discuss your feelings. I'm not going to suggest you try this, but I will tell you that many women (and men also) have an overwhelming curiousity about same sex sex, so your feelings are not unusual.

Here's the guy point of view on your husbands 3some desire. Many men can't imagine anything more exciting than being in bed with two women. That, in itself, does not mean he wants to be with another woman, because he doesn't need a 3some to do that. If it was as simple as that he could have an affair so I think this glass is half full.

Since we're just chatting here, how would he feel if you told him your fantasy was to have a 3some with two men. If you get, as I suspect you will, a negative response, then you can reasonably ask him how are you supposed to feel when he says he desires sex with another woman.

I know, this is probably not realistic but it's fun for me to think of his reaction to this suggestion.

I agree with jkgrandma. NO NO NO NO & NO! Getting into a threesome will almost guarantee that your marriage will fail. Get a marriage councilor.

Threesomes sound fun but in all reality, the fantasy of a threesome is much better than the actual threesome itself. Many marriages & relationships have been destroyed b/c couples want to add some excitement to their sex life & make the mistake of having a threesome. Definitely don't have sex with another man! Even though your husband might say he's ok with it, trust me, he's not. Your marriage will be in trouble for sure if you do that. Also, allowing him to have sex with another woman is not a good idea. You say you would like it but there's a lot that you're not thinking about.. the aftermath of the threesome. There's going to be jealousy, maybe even infidelity, feelings could get involved, etc. etc. Better to just tell him no and leave it at that. You should have never made it an option to begin with. Try other things to spice things up: porn, sex toys, role playing, etc.

Absolutely. Janissa10 gave you good suggestions on ways to spice it up.

If boredom and routine is your problem, shaking things up while keeping them between the two of you will definitely help.

If that doesn't cut it, then you've got a much bigger problem than boredom in the bedroom. You've got boredom in the marriage - and that requires introspection, communication and counseling - fast.

Having sex with two men at once is not like you see in the movies.

It tends to be more annoying than satisfying and the gyrations involved in positioning all the parts can really kill the mood.

And you mention that you have three children. Think about this: What if your daughter was married and she came to you and told you her husband wanted to have threesomes. What would you advise your daughter to do?

If you find that you don't want that experience for her, why would you want it for yourself?

Jaja09 , NO ABSOLUTELY NO IT IS NOT NORMAL !  I am with JK on this . You and your husband do not have a wonderful marriage  , if you did you would not be discussing ADULTERY .  That's exactly what this is , nothing more , nothing less .  You are telling one another that you want to break the bond of marriage and have sexual relationships outside of your marriage . Why did you bother to get married ?  Why do you stay married ?  Why did you bring 3 beautiful Children in to this world ?  Apparently you two do not love and respect one another .  If you did , you'd not be seeking the attention of other men and women .  It is not normal for a man who loves a woman to be ok with her having sexual relations with other men , nor is it normal for you to be ok with him being with other women . You have Children not only are you teaching your children that the union of marriage means absolutely nothing . You two are willing to put your health at risk with a possible STD perhaps one that may kill you .  Where is your love and responsibility to your children ????  You say you are willing to have sex anywhere to fulfill your needs , isn't your husband suppose to be the man you want to fulfill your needs .  You two need to get in to some marriage counseling immediately and be honest with one another .  I personally feel your marriage is in deep trouble .  Your Husband's been telling you for ten years he wants to committ adultery , I have a strong feeling he already has .