Married Couple: female wants husband to dom, but he won't!

will seat down with him and talk to him  and him what he wants to do then tell hime what you want to do and then talk it out  and tell hime hoe much you love him

In the name of God, why did you marry a man that you are not sexually compatible with??  He isn't all of a sudden going to be able to change!  I don't mean to be a pessimist, but this marriage is never going to work.  You are oil and water in the place that holds the most closeness and intimacy!  He cannot change.  He is not an aggressive man and derives no pleasure from dominating you.  You have already told him what you want and if he could give it to you, he already would have.  The ball is in your court.  Stay and not be satisfied or leave and find what you need.  Your husband deserves a woman that appreciates the love he gives her.  You are not that woman.  Step aside so he can find what he needs.

Chanie ~

We can only go on the information you provide us.  You never said that this ia a new "thing" for you.  I am surprised, however, that after only a few BDSM experiences prior to your marriage, that you find you cannot get satisfaction without it.  I don't know if counseling would help you.  Perhaps there is a reason, beyond simple sexual preference, for why you find this type of sex necessary now.  I never doubted that you love your husband and that you married him for more than what he could do in the sack, but people often ignore how important sexual intimacy is to keeping a marriage healthy.  I can only suggest that you find a counselor or therapist to discuss this issue thoroughly.  Perhaps you and your husband could go to couples counseling and see if this is really about other issues in your marriage that you are suppressing.

I wish you nothing but the best.  Truly.

You know sweety,If you love him,what you need to do is take over  not only in the bed room but in the kitchen,car,get off routine sex,it gets boring.Maybe he feels inadequate.Try something totally different,Get you some sex toys,But stay away from porno,You want him to be turned on by you,not porn stars.That can cause serious problems.But get you some sex toys and let him use them on you.Can be very erotic for a man as well as for a woman.You need to take charge.get off routine,and be spontaneous.Keep posted for results