Our Marriage

Hi, You both need to see a marriage counselor. He needs to understand your situation. He needs to work for somebody else if he does not know how to manage a business. If this is not OK with him, then probably you picked the wrong man for a husband. Take care.

Hi Me,

You didn't say how long and what type of business your husband is trying to succeed at. This way we can try to provide you with some answers as to whether it is realistic or not.

Hi Me,

  I also would strongly suggest marriage counseling.  Although your husband has his dream, you also have a right to your own dreams.  Needing the family to make sacrifices  so that he can pursue something that isn't working enough is not a balanced situation.  Expecting that the family, and especially you, will continue to  live in a state of stress is particularly problematic.

  Go to the marriage counselor.  There may be other answers besides his complete letting go of the business.  Perhaps he can work at a stable job at least part time and work the business as well.  I also think that your needs need  to be brought to the table.

  Best of luck,

  Elena

Dear Me, as a wife & mother myself, I understand perfectly as to why you're so distraught about this problem with your husband & his business. I also understand why you're stashing any money you can for a "rainy day", which is what all good wives & mothers do if they're smart! I agree with the other responses you've gotten, you do need to seek marriage counceling. However, that's easier to tell you than for you & your husband to actually do it! I mean, he has to first acknowledge there's a need for counseling & then go with you. You didn't say if your husband has ever had a "regular" job before or if this is the only thing he's done since you married. I have seen this many times in my life & almost every single case was the same; the husband was basically lazy, had no self-esteem, & found his self-importance from being able to say he had his own buisness. Do you feel any of this describes your husband? I ask because I wonder if there's a deeper reason as to why he won't let go of this dream that doesn't seem to be working. Following dreams is one thing but quitting our day job to do it is a whole other thing! It is NOT your duty to support the family but you may want to consider it if this continues & your husband refuses to find another source of income & or seek counseling. He needs a reality check, that alone leads me to believe he needs counseling period. Pray for your husband, for his eyes of understanding to be opened & that he will realize something needs to change & then pray for the change to come along. I will be praying with you, Trishahearon