Maybe you are in a rut. you are 22 years old, had dated for 7 years before you married him 3 years ago, so it seems you have spent your whole life dating this one man.Do you know for sure that you loved him, or was it something that you just felt comfortable with?
Whatever the relationships your mother had, probably had a reason for this relationship to start so early in your life and you didn't want to change because you thought you would turn out the way she did. To let him do whatever he wants, sounds more like you're still dating instead of in a marriage. Maybe there isn't any intimacy because he has known you so long and so well. if you want the love of your husband, then you will find some enticing ways to let him know.Quit worring about turning out like your mom did in her relationships and learn to be happy in yours,or find another kind of life.Life is too short to be unhappy so young. Good luck.