Marriage & boyfriends / girlfriends??

Hi,
In one word Yes, in 2 word: Yes sure.  Such relations shouldn't be accepted.  Sure they can (and most probably will) lead to bad directions and might be a danger to the marriage.  It's not OK to be alone with.... even if it's without sex (at least emotionally it's "cheating").  That's a sign of a problem in the  relations and you (both) have to attend to it. 
Best regards,

I think it's ok to have friends of the opposite sex if your spouse knows about it. I got married less than 2 years ago and I have male friends that my husband knows. I do not hang out with them by myself, but that is my choice. I think if you have an open and honest relationship with your husband, you should be able to tell him what you're comfortable and not comfortable with.

To put it in the simplest form for you. You should not do anything in a relationship that would cause you to get mad, upset or hurt if your "other" did the same.... Does this help out some or should I go into more detail?????????????

Personally I feel that with marriage comes a certain amount of respect and compromise. In regards to respect for my spouse I wouldn't go out with a peson of the opposite sex unless it was a family member. By compromising I gave up going out with any guy friends and my husband doesn't go out with any girl friends alone. Mainly because you put yourself in a situation that is personal and may lead to originally unthought about feelings. Plus it avoids any feelings of jealousy and future accusations.

If both of you discussed this issue before marriage and are comfortable with those arrangements, whose to say nay or ye. On the other hand if this has just begun to happen now that you are married, certainly out of respect for each other an open discussion is sorely needed.

You must hve boundaries in marriage. Faith & Trust are the foundations for a successful marriage. However, respect & LOVE for each other are #1. If you treat each other how you want to be treated, then it will be easy for you to answer your own question.

If my wife is uncomfortable with me spending time with other women, then I get her involved in everything. Hopefully, she will mature & grow out of her insecurity, but if she doesn't. I should always respect her feelings. If I have no secrets, nor hidden itentions, then my wife can, should and is involved in every aspect of my life that she chooses to be in and vice versa.

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"Respect yourself, put your spouces feeling 1st, above your own."

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its only ok if you both agree on it.  I honestly think its down right disgusting how a man somehow has heaps of girly friends or a woman has heaps of guy friends, and some how thats ok...cause it aint, its down right weird lol     

wether we like it or not, guys sex women and women sex guys. we cant escape what we were made to do!

but its generally more comon for women to have guy friends in society simply because women hate the bitch fest that women in groups bring to the table.  ( and women use this excuse all the time)  but the true underlieing reason? there horny and looking! its just biological fact!

I agree with Mrs.H0711. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, especially if that friend was there before the marriage. True you should never put yourself into a compromising position with your friend,but if both parties are comfortable with the situation continue to enjoy your friend. Having someone of the opposite sex as a friend doesn't necessarily constitute wrong actions.