Why Would A Man Lose A Good Woman Who Loves Him for a woman who uses him

For one thing men dont think like women do..He doesnt appreciated you and the grass inst always greener on the other side..He probably thinks he is a Knight in Shining armor for her..He might think you are needy ( when you just love him)..Let him think you are doing good and you dont need him.Turn the tables on him.Men like challenges and if he thinks you are needy he will stay with her..let him think you are doing great and let him see you with another man, he might come around.But there are plenty of good men out there that would appreciate a good woman..God Bless you

Leona, The sad fact is that she somehow turns him on, and he loves the feeling.  He has lust for this woman, not love.  He will run to her with pockets full of money just to get his lust satisfied from her.  It is almost like paying a prostitute.  She says and does things to him in a different way than the loving woman does, and the man loves it.  It's not that she is prettier, or smarter.  She just satisifies his lust just the way he likes it.  The loving woman should stay away from this type of man.  He will only bring her misery, and be unfaithful to her.  If he finds another woman who turns on the lust in him, he will run to her with open wallet.

Anna Sparky's Mom

I agree with Anna, Leona.

It's not a defect in the woman, it's a defect in the man. And this other woman will find that out, too. That's because this type of man won't have any long-lasting ties to her, either. Someone else will catch his eye, and off he'll go - spreading what he thinks is love and joy; but what always turns out to be misery.

It's too bad the loving woman is the one who gets hurt the most.

Leona, you're welcome.

I want to add that I think we are always willing to give you actual answers. We enjoy that a lot more than fighting with you.

We may not be in the situation in which some of your friends find themselves, but that doesn't mean that we may not have been there once upon a time, or that we can't sympathize.

Some women have to go through hell before they end up with a good guy. It's unfair and it stinks - but it's not any reason to give up trying.

Keep posting questions and we'll keep answering as best we know how. Deal?