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I love my husband but it makes it hard to show it ...

i love my husband but it makes it hard to show it he is rude when i call him just to say hi and i went to a baby shower last weekend and it started late so i was a hour late and had my 3yr old daughter with me he called yelling at me called me the c word we didnt have any plans he said i was taking advaned of him ,i dont know how that could be i had my daughter if i was my husband i would be enjoying quiet time ,he said i p ss him off so bad that"s why he say's things like that then on top of all that he wants sex all of the time i am resentful toward him and he is always telling me about my parenting skills i just never feel i can do good by him and the little friends i have he hate he finds bad in everyone of them i just talk on the phone with them i dont go to lunch with them or anything so he has no reason to be that way i am confused and tired .


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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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Why would you love someone who treats you this way?

What you describe is abuse, plain and simple.

Please keep in mind that not all abusers resort to physical violence. Some abusers use emotional means in order to control and dominate their victims - and it sounds as though your husband is one of them.

Here is a link to the warning signs of an abusive relationship:

www.heart-2-heart.ca/women/page17.html

Please read it and think hard about these signs as they may apply to your husband.

If you decide that he is an abuser (or a potential abuser), I urge you to take steps to leave him. Do NOT stick around and allow it to escalate.

If you are not ready to leave him, then you must address this problem head on. The only way that staying will work is if you and your husband agree that this behavior is a problem and you start seeing a professional therapist who can help you work through the issues involved.

You cannot 'fix' it on your own.  

Take care,

jkgrandma 
Posted 2009-08-08T20:39:16Z
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Instant Person-Just add coffee.

You are in an abusive relationship that will just keep getting worse unless you take action.  Your husband is trying to control you and everything you do.  Every time you give in to him, he will get more and more demanding until you have no choices at all. He will drive your friends away and make you feel like crap for things that are not your fault.  Listen to the words in the above post.  It is excellent advice.  You need to either get professional help or get away from him. I can't image how this is affecting your daughter's well-being.
Posted 2009-08-08T21:33:42Z
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This is abuse. It is emotional and verbal abuse. He has no reason to behave the way he does. From your description, he is ensecure and controling. I know it is hard to see thru the haze of love, family, and marriage when you are in this sistuation. He finds problems with your friends because he wants to be the only one you need. He treats and talks to you like sh*t beacause he wants you to feel emotionaly indebted to him. He tears down your selfesteem to boost his. He will not change!! Even if you leave, and he plays nice for awhile, evenually he will resort back to his normal self. Insist on therapy or get out now. You have children that he will do that to aswell. He will make her feel insignificant too. And depending on how far he is willing to go, he is always on the verge of physical abuse. Please pertect yourself and children, even if you feel as if you deserve this for some reason, kids don't!
Posted 2009-08-18T16:46:17Z
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
You received very good answers (thumb up, each). 
1.  You are in an abusive relations (verbal and emotional).
2.  It will go from bad to worse and.....
3.  I won't be surprised if it whill turn to physical.
4.  You are not happy in that relation.
5.  Sorry even to say it (my appologies !) but it seems that
     he needs you for sex for food and being a mother. 
6.  You won't be able to sove it by yourself. 
7.  So you need urgent marriage counseling.  If he refuses
     to join you, go by yourself. 
8.  Sorry again but start thinking about a divorce (cause I
     believe it is a realistic option). 
I appologise for being direct and blunt, but I have to give you a true answer.
Best regards,
Posted 2009-08-29T10:44:47Z
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He makes you feel small and weak so that he can feel bigger and betterabout himself.  He knows he is nothing and that you have great worth.  So, he feels better about himself making you feel bad.  Keep this in mind.  You have a 3 year old daughter.  How long do you think it will take before he begins talking to her that way.  What hope will she have of ever feeling good about herself or finding a good man to spend her life with.  If you cannot leave for yourself, knowing you deserve much better than that, then leave for your child.  She is a jewel and definitely deserves better than a father like that.
Posted 2009-09-05T01:04:49Z
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