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Loss of Sex Drive



I've been sexually active for about 6 years now, and I'm in my early 20s. Recently I've expirenced a serious loss of sexual desire, and I want to get it back. I've been feeling this way now for just over a year, I can't pinpoint the exact time when it started.
I've been with my current partner for about 3 years now and when we first started dating my libido was really high. But now it's dropped off completely.
I've never had an orgasm. Not even by myself. I've stopped trying now, I just can't bear to think about it. I gave up thinking about this before I lost complete interest in sex though.
I was on the pill for a bit, then I stopped. I'm not sure if this could be affecting anything. I've been off it for about a year now.
I do get a bit stressed in life, but not heaps. I worry about things a lot, but not to the point where it affected my sex life before.

From what I understand about loss of libido all of the factors I've seen that could apply to me (like stress) applied to me before when I had a really high interest and I can't think of what could have changed.
This is getting to be a real problem for me in my relationship. I don't know what to do. Please help.


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Home improvement projects, "Get'er done."

First of all, it is very unusual for a person of your age to have this type of loss of interest.  You should be getting it on every chance you get. You spoke of stress but, stated that you are no more stressed now than you were before when sex was great.  So in my opinion I’m going to say this.  You were somewhat stressed out then you started this relationship.  Things were new and great. Your stress levels started to lessen. After the novelty of a relationship and sex started to level off the stress began to rise back to the surface.  Stress affects us all differently, so for you it may be stripping you of your sex drive.  In some cases we can’t free ourselves of the stressors in our life so we have to learn how to cope with it so that it doesn’t rule our lives.  Best of luck to you.
Posted 2009-08-20T06:38:51Z
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Ken Reed Sr
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There are lots of reasons for this type of problem.  I think "James needs to know" is right on.  I also think you need to get a check up at the doctors office.  Talk frankly to the doctor and ask questions, you may be having depression issues.

Ken Reed Sr
Posted 2009-09-02T16:22:25Z
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As has been said above, there are a lot of reasons for lack of libido, both for men and for women. Libido does natgurally hit highs and lows.

However in your case, I do notice that you mention your failure to reach orgasm. To have sex without an orgasm is like buying ice cream and never being allowed to taste or eat it. Eventually you will stop buying the ice cream.

It is important that you start to relax during sex, and start to allow nature to take over during sex, and not concentrate on your performance. Take it easy and have fun, and before you know it the climax will be there.

There is a great product called Provestra that will help you to get your libido back and will also help you on your way to a better and more fulfilling sexual encounter.

It would also possibly help for you and your boyfriend to explore some new techniques and possibilities in regard to sex positions and play. Try the new sex positions that get sent to via SizeGenetics.
Posted 2009-10-04T02:24:56Z
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Provestra is a proven female libido enhancement supplement that has been called the female Viagra.

http://www.provestrareviews.net/
Posted 2009-11-09T04:51:14Z
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