Lack of lust or erctile disfunction

Hi,
I read carefully your notes and I have the feeling it's not one specific reason but rather a combination of various reasons.  No offence please, I have to be toally open:
1.  I have that feeling that he has some medical problem. 
     not necessarily a sexual problem (but possible).
2.  Something is wrong with your realtions.  I base it on
     the fact that your communication is poor.  Getting into
     "hardly talks" is a bad sign.  If you feel sometimes that 
     he hates you that's a very bad sign.  Are you good
     friends (on top of being married) ?.
3.  It can easily be a mid-life crisis.
4.  Obviously something bothers him.  Those changes in
     his mood and "seems very depressed says nothing
     makes him happy" really should worry !.
5.  No offence please: could it be ralted to the differences
     in your ages ? (though it shouldn't be).
6.  No offence please:  Could it be that he has someone
     else ? (sorry). 
7.  Does he have MAJOR problems at work ?
8.  Do you have MAJOR economical problems ?
Somewhere in between those lines / questions you'll probably find the answer.
Best regards,

It seem to me like the problem is much larger then just your sex life, but that this became the battle field of the relationship. It's obvious that this didn't start over night, nor will it be resolved over night.

I he can masturbate  regularly, then that basically rules out a physical problem. I think that maybe things just changed between the two of you, that there's some anger that makes him want to stay apart from you on anything intimate or sexual.

I think that first of all it's important that the two of you stop acting as if everything is like it used to be and acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. The problem might not be just with him, but as a couple, if one wants sex and the other don't then that is an issue that should be addressed. It seem that the two of you just avoid it and pretend as if business are as usual.

There are al ot of things you can do to resolve it, whatever the source of the problem is, but first of all, there should be willingness on both part to address the problem.

What is he masterbating to would be my question. Try to find out if it is porn. if it is maybe you should put some porn on in front of him and watch it with him. some how i think you need to investigate what is allowing him to masterbate 5 out of 7 times a week and try to include yourself in this activity. hopefully he will let you in.