How do you break up with someone without hurting ...

It's probably better if you don't use an excuse, and come up with the truth. It's usually less painful than finding out later that you didn't go away but that you just didn't like the girl, and most lies tend to be revealed eventually.

 Explain with not too many details that you've each gone your separate ways, and try not to be too condescending.

it wont be easy thats for sure. Be straight with why you want to break up the relationship, thats the only thing you can do. how she reacts will depend on how much she loves you and on her personality. expect tough days or weeks, its inevitabled

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I'm quite shocked that you say 'which excuse?'. That seems to be a bit shallow luv! Anyway, how long have you been with this partner? If it's a long time then mention only the truth and how you actually feel: if someones been with you for so long then they deserve to know the reason for losing you.

Hi,

It's never pleasant to hear someone doesn't want to be with you anymore,even worse if they're lying through their teeth about why.I believe your intentions are good but you will just have to be uncomfortable for a few minutes and tell this person exactly why you don't want to be with them.Maybe it's something they can work on,or the connection has fizzled,or was never there to begin with.Try not to use any cliche ("it's not you it's me...")and don't give your soon-to-be-ex false hope for a reconciliation ("it's just not the right time for us").Good luck!

It's going to hurt!  It would be a like a surgeon saying I'm going to operate on you but it wont't hurt.  It is going to be painful not just for her, but for you too.  If you care anything at all about her, and it sounds like you do because you don't want to see her hurt, then do your self justice by being honest, not brutal, but kind and understanding of her pain.  You do that , and your a stand up guy in my book.

best wishes.