I am in love with a married man and i am also ...

I think that deep down you know what you have been doing is wrong and the price you will pay if this affair comes out in the open is extremely high. So you post your question to Yedda hoping someone will tell you to stop and end it immediately. And that is me. You don't write about your husband, your children or how long you have been married. Our married lives are not always on a high because there are so many interferences, worries, concerns that tend to weigh on us. And along comes someone with whom you feel a release, but that is only an illusion. Try to realize what you have and learn to appreciate it; it is NOT better on the other side. Make the effort; it is well worth it. Let us hear how you are progressing.

Hi,
Harryvan gave you an excellent answer.  Your story is really touching, for some reason I see it as growing a tree and not being able to eat the fruits.
Relations are created to fullfil them..... relations are not hidden meeting once a week or so.... they should be open, daily and long lasting.   It's a pitty that you (both) found your true love and unable to fullfil it and enjoy it drinking all the glass..... (not a zip here and there).  If you keep on that way it will "kill" both of you.  I wonder how much more will you be able to continue, sooner or later one of you won't be able to live that way and will ask for more.... In Hebrew we say (sure there is an equivalent in English): "The wise one doesn't enter a trap that the smart one  will find the way out".....
Best regards,

wow

Hi,

     Loving somebody is a noble thing but not to love a married man.  You need to love your husband only.  There must be something missing in your marriage, otherwise you won't turn to someone else.  Whatever it is, discuss this with your husband and try to remedy the situation.  If you don't love your husband anymore, you need to leave your marriage in fairness to him.

    If you continue seeing him, you are going to jeopardize your marriage and will ruin both families.  I don't think that you will feel good if you will be the cause of the  break-up of the other person's marriage.

   Marriages go through many chages during the course of a life time and what you are going through is not uncommon. It is, however, something you must take control of. You understand perfectly that you two will never be together, and you hve to govern your actions accordingly. The longer you continue seeing him the more pain you will experience when you break up, and eventualy you will. The pain of leaving the relationship will eventually be less than the pain to continue the deception.

   You must also realize you cannot have even a friendship after the romance is over. It would simply lead back to the same behavior. The break must be clean and total. An honest discussion (and you'll have to be resolute whn you talk to him) about your reasons for ending the relationship will help bring closure to both of you and not leave doubt about where you stand.

    As others have said you know what you must do and you areooking for suport for a decision you have already made mentally if not emotionally. It's a little like pulling your own teeth but the relief you willfeel after it is over will be very much worth it.

Good Luck

Do You men really understnd this question?  Do you ever feel the pain us women feel?  I think Not.

Of course I feel your deep pain; otherwise I and the others would not have responded. But emphasizing and condoning are two separate terms and I cannot in any way condone your action. It is wrong and nothing good will come of it. You must come to realize that the longer this goes on the greater the pain that all those involved (your family as well as his) will suffer. You use the word "addicted" to refer to your relationship and as you well know therm is used when you are caught in some type of destructive trap. So do what is right for everyne concerned and sever this destructive relationship. Time will show that all those who responded as well as I will be proven to have been right.