well i might not be correct but let it roll off your shoulders and tell you kids if they want to know the truth you will tell them. don't hold any details back. i went something simalur to that with my sister-in-law. but i might not be the one to listen to i have three children 2 boys 1 girl. the boys will have nothing to do with each other and now the girl and one boy wont have anything to do. so you can take my advice or not. but it worked for me