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So I've been talking to this guy who I go to ...

So I've been talking to this guy who I go to school with and how known for quite some time.  We've talked several times, but never actually dated.  This tiem has been different than others.  He actually puts forth more effort and this time seems wayy different than the times before. 

I don't speak to my ex's but I am friends with the mother of one of them.  For the past year I have frequently spent days with her when I could while her son was gone out, b/c he and I don't get along.  She has become like another mother to me, and I often talk to her on the phone. 

I had a conversation with this guy the other day about how I usually went to spend time with her and he told me if we dated "it wouldn't fly with him."  she got me a Christmas present,which I have yet to make it to exchange gifts b/c I was waiting for her son to go back to school.  I'm in from college and he is a senior in high school, so he starts back to school before me.  I planned on going this week to see her b/c I haven't seen her for a couple months now. 

I told this guy I've been talkng to that I'm going to see her, and he got angry with me.  We aren't dating, so it's not like he has some claim on me.  I wonder if you could tell me what I'm supposed to do?  Obviously, I shouldn't let some guy tell me I can't go see my friend!!

It is okay for him to be jealous and not want me to go when he's not my boyfriend?  Even if he was my boyfriend, would it still be wrong to go see her when her son isn't home, and my friendship with her has nothing to do with him?? To me, it seems ridiculous b/c I'm not interested in my ex, but I still wonder if he would have a right to be mad if we were dating, or if he's just being a jealous guy.


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You have the right to see and speak with whom you wish. This guy has no hold over you and no right to tell you whom to see. If he exhibits such jealousy now imagine how much he would exhibit if you were actually dating.

So, continue seeing your ex's mother especially if you enjoy her company. You both know and accept that you no longer have any relationship with the ex.
Posted 2009-01-06T11:40:06Z
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The best things in life are free.The second best things seem to cost alot.

You go see your friend.This guy has no right to react the way he did.Always know this,cute guys that you have the hots for are much easier to find and come along more often than good friends that care about you and that you can trust do.
Posted 2009-01-06T12:02:46Z
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Maybe you need to just tell him, she is like another mother to you, so its not that you see her to see her son. Explain her son and you dont get along so you try to see her when he isn't there and he needs to accept that because she is someone you care about and value as a friend.

If he cant accept that after you tried to reassure he has no worries, I would say you should just be friends with that guy because if he is going to control who you hang out with when there isnt a need to worry then. Plus you two arent together, so this problem could only get worse. There could be many reasons why he is trying to control this; such as: he may be testing if he can control you, see how you react, be a control freak, among many other things.
Posted 2009-01-06T19:59:20Z
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He has no right to be jealous or mad at all. He also has no right to tell you what to do and who to see. Even if the 2 of you were together, he still shouldn't be jealous and try to control you. This should show you what kind of person he is and if you ever decide to go out with him it will be even worse. He's jealous,controlling and who knows what else.
Posted 2009-01-06T20:49:07Z
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Go.Get.Love.

What I don't understand is that he acted like this last night, and not long after that he went to bed.  He had told me we could finish talking about it tomorrow, so I'd just left him alone.  Today I texted him and he told me "it doesn't matter because we aren't dating."  Why would he act all weird the night before and then the next day have an "idc" attitude about it all??

What is that an indication of.  It seems like he doesn't know what he wants or something. Who knows.
Posted 2009-01-06T20:52:39Z
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I think he likes you more than a friend. Maybe he really thought about it and realized he can't tell you what to do,who to see,etc. since he is not dating you.
Posted 2009-01-06T20:58:02Z
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Go.Get.Love.

If he likes me as more than a friend, then why isn't he trying to take our relationship to the next level?

I'm not sure what his motives are.  It seems that he's interested sometimes, yet sometimes not.  I just feel like last night for instance, he was being horribly jealous, yet annoying as it is it was some slight indication that he did care.  And today he was just so nonchalant about the whole thing, as if after sleeping on it he came to some conclusion I'm not sure of myself.

It's also like this: if he didn't care then he wouldn't still be texting me.
Posted 2009-01-06T21:19:13Z
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he is shy, and he doesn't know what to do.

although he shouldn't be mad, thats silly, he just likes you is all.

so if you like him let him know how you feel.
Posted 2009-01-07T00:30:56Z
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