Intimacy issues outside the bedroom

I think it be worth your while to speak to him honestly about the way you feel. It might well be that in the bedroom he feels that he is in control and plays the active role but does not feel that way outside the bedroom. I don't know why you hesitate to speak honestly with him if you were so willing to be intimate with him so early in your relationship. And it could be that he is not ready or willing to go one step further in building a more serious relationship and likes things just the way they are on his terms. It is really up to you to call the shots NOW.

What would love be like if we were all  alike? Apparently he is different then you . These things take time. Don't try to force him into anything he might fell pressured . you might want to take a small step down and see how he reacts to that. If you won't be the same he might wonder why you are acting this way and  will ask for your intimacy.

Great that you are intimitate when you are alone.

 Also, guys are different from women.

Why not accept him for who he is, rather than what you want him to be.  If you can't, why not find someone else who is more like you.The goal in a relationship is to share each other, not change each other.

Oddly, some guys are really old-school when showing affection in public.  They might want to be seen as being polite and being a gentleman in public instead of wanting to groap women in public places.  This is still affection but not the type you are looking for?

Also, many guys do not have a huge range of emotions, and expecting that they should have the same range as you is not really reasonable.  They are not you.

Best of luck, and hope you find the love you are looking for. 

WOW....this is where the differences between men and women come in. You can't force a guy when it comes to "intimacy" issues. Some guys have a hard time telling the one they love about their innermost feelings because of the fear of being a "puss". Guys are supposed to be tough according to our society, anyway. I think you should give this guy some space. Confide in him, a little at a time and he may begin to trust you enough to confide back in tiny steps. Guys don't even remember some things the way women do, because we see things so diferently in the first place.  I have been married 23 years to a terrific guy and he still confides in small steps. Don't push, go slowly and most of all show him your love and acceptance. Love him in every way that is natural toyou and let him learn to trust you as his soulmate.I believe that there is just too much "new psych" stuff floating around that causes people to expect someone to just melt right into them. Relax and Love and confide in him slowly your innermost cares. Do it at the appropriate times. Blessings to you!