Interested or playing with me

This guy who's been my friend for a while told me that he regreted not giving us more of a chance in the past. He then proceeded to tell me that he had feelings for me. I was kinda excited cause I had feelings for him for a while and I had confessed to my co-worker about it. I didn't know she would tell her sister and her sister was a ex- of his. He knew that i liked him and led me on one night we were hanging out at the bar with a group of friends. One thing led to another and we ended up fooling around. Now he's like "I'm not interested in a relationship, but i know if i offered you one you would have jumped at it" How am I supposed to react to this?


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He already told you that he is not interested in a relationship so what I'd do is to  just leave it at that.  The man should be the one to make the initiative to start a relationship.  The man does not really value a relationship if they are not given a chance to " chase" a woman.  So don't make it too easy for him, otherwise you'll just end up to be his play thing.
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The guy says he's not interested, so treat him as if you're uninterested.  That will make you interesting to him.  First you want him, are all into him, and then you give him exactly what he gave you.  His chase will really be on then.

At that point, you tell him you're not ready to be in a relationship with someone who isn't ready to be in a relationship.  And then let him stew on it and see what happesn.
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Surrender.  Surrender.  But don't give yourself away . . . .

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How are you supposed to react to that?  I'm sure your are angry at being used.  You were used, pure and simple, and any encouragement he gives you will end in the same situation.  You sleep with him, then he says, "Oops, did you think I really wanted a relationship?"  He's a player.  Find a real man.
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I think he has commitment problems. 
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I think he wants a serious relationship without playing and doesn't think about what's interesting.  He just knows it in his heart.
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The simple answer was it was always yes, but their were other emotions to be put to rest, commitment you know.
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