Inproving marital relationship

There is much more here than simply personality differences.

I strongly urge the two of you to seek marital counseling.

Jay

Hi Shasma,

    Great question! Both my husband and I are introverts, so we have always understood each other, and are always on the same page. But you say that you are an extrovert, so I think I know where you are coming from. I have a wonderful book called The Introvert Advantage-How to Thrive in an Extrovert World. By Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. Check out it out, it's really a great book, and it might help you to understand where he is coming from.

As a world-class introvert, I have to say that is not an introvert/extrovert problem. The man is accusing you of trying to spy on him because he has something to hide. You're just being considerate, doing what any normal spouse would do in asking about his day, trying to connect - he is on the defensive because he feels guilty. If he didn't feel guilty or have something to hide, he wouldn't be lashing out at you.

I strongly recommend that you take measures to protect yourself and any children involved in the relationship. THEN, when you know that you're in a strong position, insist on counseling, or find a way to find out what he's hiding.