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Hi Toria,

I am sorry you are going through such a rough time right now.

I will tell you that I think your thoughts are a little out of the norm, but perfectly understandable under the circumstances.

Your hormones are going haywire and your support system is in the toilet - it's perfectly normal to be depressed. In fact, if I were in your position I think I might feel like going to bed and staying there until everything got better!

Unfortunately, we both know you can't do that.

So here's what I suggest:

First, you need to get a good support system going with people who can help you with maternity clothes, baby clothes, counseling and maybe even housing. Here is a link to an organization that can help you with all of that: www.birthright.org.

Next, you need to make sure you let your doctor know how you've been feeling. I know a lot of it is due to your boyfriend troubles, but some is also due to your hormone levels; your doctor can give you some suggestions on what to try so you can make sure your hormone levels stay as even as possible.

You also need to develop a network of people who know what you're going through because they've been in your shoes.

Yedda is a good place to start, but it's not good enough for you right now. What you need is other women. You need women who are pregnant now and you need women who've lived through what you're experiencing and come out okay.

Here's a site which can help with that: www.breastfeeding.com. It's a free site which has a community forum where you can ask anything of the other members - whether it's about breastfeeding or giving birth or being a teen mom or a single mom; someone there will have an answer for you along with lots of moral support.

I realize these answers I've given you are fairly general, and I apologize if you have a question or concern I didn't answer.

What I wanted to do was to give you a jumping off place so you can get some help and start to feel better right away - so check out the sites I gave you and let me know what else you need, okay?

I'll do my best to help or find someone who can.

Take care,

jkgrandma

P.S. There are also some legal matters you'll need to handle regarding custody, visitation and support - but that information is for another day. Let's get you feeling better, first.

Hi , The first thing you do is start thinking about the Child you are carrying  , he/she is your number one responsibility and top priority .  You can't make your X-boyfriend who is nothing more than a sperm donor , love you or his Child but you certainly can make him accept financial responsibility for his child .  You also should seek help from local , State and Federal agencies , find out what type of housing , medicial , support and financial aid you qualify for now and after your Baby is born .  I would also like to see you join a support group for unwed Mother's , they will supply you with moral support and counseling that I feel will benefit you greatly .  There are also agencies with will help you with education , job training and job placement . I know you are scared but there are people who will help you .  You are hurt by your X-Boyfriends behavior , you deserve better than this guy . You are 18 years old alot of life ahead of you , you will meet a man who will truly love you and will be a good role model for your child , something your baby's Father isn't .  You are going to be blessed with Motherhood  , focus on having a happy , healthy Baby .  My wish for both of you happiness .  God Bless You .

If you have a Women's Resource Center in your community, contact them and they will be able to help you with everything.  If not, when you see your doctor, ask him/her to direct you.  Tell the doctor your problem: no support system; no money etc. 

 I think it's a shame that your mom and dad will not let you live with them, but if you have to, go to a Homeless Shelter.  The people who run those homes are usually an excellent source for people in your condition. 

 As for the fellow.  Chalk it up to a life experience, but there is no need to spend any more time with him than is necessary.  You should be able to receive financial support from him, but you will need a lawyer. 

 I can understand your emotional state right now, but as the other posts have said, think of the baby and yourself.  The new life you are carrying needs to be born healthy to a healthy mother. 

 This child is a blessing to be loved and cared for.  Do anything you can to nurture yourself and this new life.  God Bless, NJoy

I'm 18 years old and pregnant as well. I have always struggled with depression and anxiety issues, and they have gotten worse not that I'm pregnant. Talk to your doctor. He/She will discuss with you whether or not you should take safe medication, or see a therapist. It isn't normal to be suicidal while pregnant, however it is not uncommon. I understand how hard it is. I've felt the same way the past few weeks as my pregnancy progresses. I wish you the best. Just remember, you protect this little baby now. He/She is most important. Staying alive will be worth it as soon as you see your baby.

I'm 18 years old and pregnant as well. I have always struggled with depression and anxiety issues, and they have gotten worse not that I'm pregnant. Talk to your doctor. He/She will discuss with you whether or not you should take safe medication, or see a therapist. It isn't normal to be suicidal while pregnant, however it is not uncommon. I understand how hard it is. I've felt the same way the past few weeks as my pregnancy progresses. I wish you the best. Just remember, you protect this little baby now. He/She is most important. Staying alive will be worth it as soon as you see your baby.

Hi Toria,

It seem that your ex-boyfriend isn't the right person for you as he is not ready to be father at this time.  However, I personally do not agree with the concept of abortion, as that means killing live.

You have to move on, look for work at home, there is always something that you can do to make a living.  Talk to your mom and dad that you will find something to work out for a living.  Tell them that you need help with a place to live while carrying this little live inside of you.  Try to find if there is some sort of community service that can provide help to you.