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Husband Dying and left

My husband is dying rom Lung Cancer and Emphasema.  He left me and his children because his sister said she could take better care of him.  What do I do?

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Julia1111
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Misty Lady-

My sister's husband is battling cancer right now.  I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.  Sending you my warmest thoughts and heartfelt sympathy.  I would talk to his sister.  Tell her you understand that she wants to spend time with him now but make it clear that so do you and your children.  Maybe her help would be welcome?  If so, tell her what you need.  You may need a break. A few hours to yourself.  Tell her you would appreciate her help but want him home with you.

I hope this helps.

Warm Regards.
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Thanks so much!  But I am numb.  I came home form work one day and he was gone.  His sister talked him into leaving me and his children.  What can I do about this?  Do you have any suggestions?

I am in a state of depression, I don't want him to dye away from us!
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His sister is so rotten she will not even pick up the phone and they do not live near us.  And I was told if I try to go over she will have me arrested.
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Julia1111
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I'm so sorry. Families should stick together in times like this.  Does he have any other siblings or parents that you may be able to reach out to?  Do you have your own support system?  This can't be an easy time for you.  Just having to go to work and think about this must be exhausting and overwhelming.  How old are your children?  Call your family, friends, whoever you can.  You need help and support too.  Cancer affects the whole family.  I would call your family physician.  They can help you with the depression.  Give you something to help you deal with all of this.

Please take care of yourself.
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JayR
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Life is too serious not to have a sense of humor.

The most important thing is his relationship with Jesus. He will soon meet his Maker or his taker.

I do not feel I can go into the family interrelationships with so little data.

Keep these three things in mind

  •      1. GOD loves you and will help you thru this difficult time.
  •       2. Lung cancer can cause brain problems by producing  
  •            chemicals(hormones) or by direct invasion (metastasis). this                     means he may not be in his right mind
  •      3. Is there money invovled? Greed is one of the 7 biggies.You    may need legal counsel to protect yourself and y'all's children.

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JayR
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Life is too serious not to have a sense of humor.

A few more thoughts.

When dealing with anyone who does not support your cause for reunification, be polite. Do not be nice. Have no thoughts about pleasing them. Do not look for approval from them. Do not compromise with them. It is your way or the highway. Before doing anything, be absolutely sure about your goals.  Know your boundaries. Have some friends and pastoral support ready to provide you with emotional and spiritual support. 
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