How do you deal with your mates teenage daughter, who you dislike?
I really like this person but his daughter can really be a headache. She is not bad to the point of being disrespectful but she has a nice nasty smart mouth. I try to maintain and keep my cool because I know I could really say somethings to hurt her feelings.
How long have you been married? Has she always been this way? Part of this behavior may be her age and another part may be a reaction to her father moving on without her mother. You've done the right thing by not reacting to her. (She might be trying you.) Attempt to find ways to meet her, when you can. Maybe you could restate what she is saying in to find out what is behind her words. Does she feel alone, fearful, angry, etc.? Why is she feeling that way? You will make it through this, because you want to. That is evident, because you are searching for answers. Let her know you love her and want the best for her. Good luck and may God bless you.
oboy, been there! First and foremost, do NOTHING that places you between your man and his child, because you - will - lose. Profess to be her friend and try to some extent to develop a relationship with her - take her out to dinner at a nice restaurant and find out what is on her mind, etc., take her shopping, etc. - however do not expect that this will fix things, because she undoubtedly sees you as an enemy and even may be wanting her parents to get back together. Over time, if your relationship with her father is strong and supportive, she may very well come around to accept you as a friend.
I contribute these thoughts because my husband of 23 years has a daughter who was a teen when we met, and she turned out to be a piece of work. She's in her thirties now and I believe that she secretly still thinks her parents will get back together - how sad. I feel for the kids of broken families and the pain they live with. But some - like his two sons - adapt and thrive with the new relationships, and some don't. You just don't have much control over this.
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