Help with a troubled teenager

Change your locks!

 Letting her do what she wants,just encourages a non productive person in society! We sure dont need more of them!

Do not feel guilty or sorry 4 her. This happened to me & it was the best lessons i learned!

Thanks 2 my parents!!!!!!!

Good luck!

Wow. First, let me start out by explaining the adolescent brain.  The child brain doesn't fully develop until about the age of 25.  The gray matter in the frontal part of the brain is not there yet so he/she cannot reason or be reasoned with.  Your husband seems to aggrevate the situation by being an "enabler" to her.  Your other children are watching (they are like little sponges, and absorb everything!)

She needs inpatient treatment.  There is NOTHING you can do for her except give her tough love.  She is already well into her addiction and is quite capable of drawing the entire family into it as well.  Here's some suggestions to start:

1. Her mom is not allowed near or around your home at anytime.  Seems to me that she is exacerbating the situation.

2.  Your husband need to grow some balls (sorry about that), but he cannot make choices between his child and his family!.  This is what the daughter wants, and it seems she's winning.

3.  Take your keys and lock up your home when you leave.  She should remain out of the house while you all are at work.  She will begin to steal items and money (if she hasn't already).  You and her husband cannot afford to pay for her to "play house)@ your convenience.

4. Insist that she goes into treatment or else....  SHE MUST HAVE A CONSEQUENCE!

good luck

I think since she is 18 or older you need to kick her out. She doesnt want to change then so be it. Its her life and she only wants your money and a place to stay. Change all the locks Give her some tough love.

There once was a farmer who had two mules, he never could plow a field with them, cause those mules just wouldn't work together. That's what's going on in your household, as you and her father are pulling in different directions. And until he wakes-up and sees that his own daughter is taking him for a fool. She'll be the Cock-Of -The- Roost. You need some Tough-Love with him first, like put your foot down and tell him that she goes or that you'll be more than glad to let them have each other. The Tough-Love with him may or may not work,but if he cannot see that, Well, At least your quality of life will change for the better.