Help me respark the passion

Either he feels it or not. He first said he loved you, and now he doesnt. I dont know. It sounds like he is unsure of his feelings. Chemistry is a huge part in a relationship, thats were the passion comes from, if theres no chemistry, no spark, than it might be dead in the water. You cant force someone into feeling that way. Its either there or not. I met a man once, and it was instant chemistry, I felt like I was on fire. Its been rare for me to feel that way about anyone. Its only happened twice so far, and I am not to young. You can try to get a spark going by doing things that he likes, but if he says he doesnt love you, I would think that would make you not want to. You know in your heart if hes being honest about his feelings, and go with your gut feeling. Hope it all works out for you two.

Hi Debbie,

    I totally agree with what Karen just said, gave her 2 thumbs up.  If a man told you he does not love you and does not show his love, then I think you should not waste your precious time with him.  You cannot force anyone to love you.  Love is voluntary, and freely given. 

     It's very painful to be rejected and love not reciprocated but that's the reality of the situation.  Move on with your life and don't look back.  You'll only get hurt.  I think that he loves someone else.

I'm not trying to upset you but if his whole attitude has changed he obviously has his eye on someone else.  Try changing your appearance dye your hair get a new hair style wear a new sexy outfit.  Let him know you're going out with your friends.  Don't call him wait for him to call you.  Don't pick up the phone the first time he calls you. Act disinterested.  I've done these things if he cares this will work. 

you can't, and you shouldn't want to, I don't know your history together, (could be something there) otherwise, I know its hard, but move on.............\r

The question is Did he say he loved you before the two of you were intimate?

Then change his mind after?  It could be that he did not feel the "sparks" after sex. Rejection  is hard to deal with but remember this, everyone is not attracted everyone sexually or otherwise.  You WILL find someone that can't get enough of you.  Did you ever have relations with someone you really liked only to find out that he didn't do it for you?  Think of that and TRY not to take it so personally, because it 's really about people connecting not at all about you being unattractive.  Case in point.  Halle Berry, Christie Brinkley.