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Hi,

Listen... I have no idea why he left you or what your relationship was like, but I have a few things to say.  You can always try sitting down with him, to see if there is a way that you could work out your problems and continue on with your relationship.  If he isn't interested in doing this, then you need to be strong.... you need to know that if someone doesn't want you then they're not worth your time.  You can find someone else who will love you like you love them.  That is the way healthy relationships work.  You said you can't live without him, and I have to say something about that too.  If you want to be a happy person, you need to begin with loving yourself, and you need to be able to be happy on your own.  Your happiness can't depend on another person.  Maybe you need to spend some time on your own, doing the things you love, spending time with friends, finding your own inner happiness... because only then, can you, as a whole person, find another whole person and share your lives together.  I hope this helps you.  I'm sorry for your pain... be strong and good luck. 

I agree with dreadlocks. Before you can love anyone, you need to learn to love yourself. You should know that it is not that you "can't" live without your fiance, it is that you do not want to. You should work on you ability to be independent before you can be with anyone because a healthy relationship is not one where you are dependant on the other person completely. I hope that things work out with you and your fiance. Still, perhaps you could look at this as an opportunity to work on and get to know yourself. Find out what it is that you love about yourself and why it is that you deserve someone that fully appreciates all of the wonderful things that you have to offer (and you absolutely do!!)!

Hi,

     He left you so don't go after him.  You are just going to be miserable in the long run.  There are nice men who are looking for you, you just have to be patient.

    If he truly cares, he would try to discuss problems with you so you can solve them together.  I think he does not deserve you.

Take care.

I think first you find what are the reason behind he leaves you.. just resolve them and approach him..  May be then he

You seem to have a habit of telling one person to do everything they can to repair or rebuild their relationship and turning around and telling another to bail on it and forget it.  Telling someone to forget a relationship they've obviously worked hard on is destructive, dismissive and altogether rude.  Two thumbs down.  Consider their feelings before you post.

Hi Glyttch,

     I agree totally with OronD in his response.  The man left this woman, what do you want to tell her?  Keep chasing him?  I don't think chasing this man makes sense.  He did not consider her feelings.

I wasnt saying she should keep chasing the guy, she needs to figure out why he left her in the first place and see if there's a way to fix the relationship.  Considering the lack of information in the question I'm going to have to assume that she doesnt have any idea why he left.  Keeping that in mind, there's no way that any of us responding could know enough yet to tell her to forget it.  Telling someone to bail on a relationship they've obviously committed so much emotional energy to without knowing the details is a bad idea, all I was saying.  Given more information I could have made a better decision as to wether it's a good idea to give up or not, but neither OronD or I had such information to go on.  When the question is a simple "what to do" type, like this one, with no back story saying "give up and get out" is likely not to help the person asking.