Help need advice

Hi Joey,

     I read your story very carefully.  This was my observation:

1.  That you are very nice, naive and gullible(sorry for being honest)

2.  That she just used you financially.

3.  That she is not the woman for you, move on, find someone with a lot less baggage, and one who'll appreciate you.

4.  She is very childish, ungrateful and a total loser.

5.  Forget the money you gave her for dental work.  You can't recover that, you did not have any agreement signed that she'll pay for it back.

6.  Stay away from her, get busy with more productive projects

7.  It is not a good idea to give big sums of money during courtship.

    it was not your obligation to fix her teeth.

8.  Learn this lesson, don't get involved with a woman who has lots of issues. 

First of all, I believe you are a very kind and generous man.  However, you did state that you didn't mind giving her the money for her teeth, in the beginning.  Even though she has been hurtful and hateful since...your first feelings are the ones you should still stay with.  You could, of course take her to small claims court, but you will have to PROVE you gave her the money, and prove that it was a loan, or that she should pay you back.  I do think that if you get the money back, her children would be the ones to suffer in the long run....she doesn't sound like she cares about anyone but herself.  If I were you, I'd just be the "bigger and better person", and let her go on acting like a child, and ignore her.  Go on with your life, and your interests.  Find you a gal that will appreciate you, and care for YOU!  Although I can certainly understand your anger, the best revenge is IGNORING her from now on.

Good luck!

Since you gave the money to her as a gift, regardless of wether she offered to pay it back, you have no legal recourse.  You can't sue her for money you gave her as a gift because you're mad at her now...  which sucks for you.  The only thing you can really do is chalk it up as a learning experience, keep it in the back of your mind, and be more careful next time.

I would definitely ask for your money back.  How inmature is she!!! Being a mother with 2 kids she should know better and not play those stupid little games.  If she hasn't grown up by now she never will.  It's hard to get over a long term relationship with a woman with kids.  Because the love you feel for the kids sometimes hurts you more when it's over then the love you feel for her so don't confuse the two.