Help with leaving husband, getting a seperation and divorce, HELP!

Bsst of luck in trying as you are screwed with everything being joint unless your a lucky ones and change things with out him knowing I suggest you move out and contact an attorney as everything is 50-50 you own. Get an attorney who can take as much as he or she can. Look for the worst shister you can find this way everything is legal and above board even though it may behind his back. LOL

You should contact your state's Bar Association for a referral to an experienced Family Law attorney in your area.

They can help you set a consultation appointment so you can find out about your rights and responsibilities and you can also ask the attorney for advice on how best to proceed.

Additionally, please contact www.ndvh.org for help in arranging things while maintaining your safety.

Good luck.

Hi, first of all, calm down a little (even tho that's hard to do), relax your nerves (even if it means going to a doctor for medication), sit down and start making a list of things you want to do, to take with you, to divide (like bank accts. etc.), where you are thinking of moving and check out the costs involved with doing that (rent, utilities, phone, cable etc).  I know you are stressed, but right now you need to protect yourself, so a clear head and clear direction will help you put things in perspective.  Along with your ojectives, you need to find out what your rights and legalities are under the legal venues in your state (I don't think you mentioned your state).  These legal points vary from state to state, so this is an important factor.  Your children are grown, so that's really a plus for you.  You are not 'screwed' at this point...you have rights and choices - don't forget that.  And what has to be split, then decide what is important to you at this time in your life.  How long have you been married, what state are you from, are you financially able to do this at this time??  You will need to rent a truck and make absolutely certain you know where he is at any given time.  Have local movers do this for you as they can pack and move a lot quicker than you can (I know - I did this many years ago) and had I not rented a truck and movers - I would have been caught red-handed and you don't want that.  If you work, have someone there lie for you that day - in my case, my partner called my office and they told him I was home sick - he was the suspicious kind, so I found out from neighbors after I left that within 10 mins. of packing and leaving, my ex was at the front door....whew!!  Just sit down and prepare accordingly so that you have a plan and a goal to work towards - your nerves will relax a little - don't do this based on emotions - be strong and think about what you want and need to make this happen.   I wish you so much luck with this...if I can be of further help, please contact me and I'll give you my personal email.  I'll be thinking of you.  

If you are serious, then the first thing to do is find a lawyer. Talk with them about the issues of cars, titles, bank accounts etc, before you leave or pack anything. Do your very best to act as though nothing is going on. One thing I did learn the hard way, it is easier to give something back than to get it. When you do go, take the money, close the account get packed and get out quickly. Know what you are entitled to, and go for the whole thing. There will always be room later to negotiate. If you think it may be a while before you do this, save some money back in your own account at another bank. Look out for yourself, he won't be looking out for you! Good luck, let me know how it goes. Be careful of what you say and do.

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An important quistion is who was the bredeunner throughout your marriage.  If he supported you, the courts will make him pay spousal support. Another important issue is a restraining order, if he has a bad temper & u r afraid for you safety, you must bring this to the courts attention. A restraining order is ther best way to go about that. Also, you need to plan your escape down to the last detail, that way, you have a plan that you have thought throgh. It's not something you can do spur of the moment. You ned to have a close freiend or family member you trust with your life that you can depend on. The wost feeling in the world is feeling trapped & helpless. Make sure you have a back-up plan & u cover all your bases. It's imparative that you have someone you trust because you don't need to do this alone. I wish you the best of luck & God be with you.