I think it is always hard to understand that your parents need to feel appreciated or that they might want some sort of compensation for a service such has babysitting. More so for something that was offered on such conditions has you stated. I am currently in a simular situation but I am the child who's mother wants to watch my children. I have three young children and my wife is returning to work and my mother wants to watch the children. Where I live we can receive government funded daycare that we pay $7 a day per child. The condition we set was six months to allow enough time for three spots to open. I was the one who stipulated the condition to avoid this sort of situation. I am sure that your daughter would understand your position if you laid it out on the table exactly has you presented it to us. The only thing is it might take time for her to understand your side because no child wants to be accused of taking advantage of their parents.

I think that you might have taken the hiring of a babysitter a little harsh. Do you think she might want to hire a babysitter the re-leave you of this obligation and they might have realized they are over using your kind offer. Has far as giving you money or compensating such has cigarettes, I think all of us children tend to over us/under appreciate our parents. I think that if I was in your situation my biggest fustration wouldn't be the willingness to pay someone else for what I was doing but the fact that someone else would be caring for my grandchild. Seeing has you spend so much time with the baby I believe you somewhat would feel that way. The payment makes it worse because you were offering a free service and it's like a double slap in the face.

I think your biggest task won't be to explain your side but to apologies for the way you reacted on Sunday. In the end I think to re-leave your inner hurt you need to do just that apologies for your reaction and maybe interpret the babysitter has a courtesy for your time.

That's just my interpretation I could very well be wrong but my interpretation is what you wanted by posting so God bless and good luck.

Daniel