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edliz

Help me please advise me on this one

well.. this guy and I have been seeing each other for 3 months now...There are no days that we failed to talk to eachother about our day. We go to the same school but fifferent building.

During these days, i've noticed he's become different. I asked him to cool off for a month and ask his self if he really does love me because i think he really doesn't love me because i think he doesn't care. He doesn't put any effort to make me feel a bit special. Well, I'm still kindah childish coz on my birthday which is also our monthsary I expect him to at least give me even 1 pc of rose or even a letter if he hoesn't have money to buy me expensive gifts. but my bday just pass like any ordinary day. And there's a time when it's so late already and he's still not yet at his house so that made me worry so much.. I tried to call him on his cellphone andit's off. I texted his cousin to contact me if he saw my bf home already.. Then his cousin told me that my bf's home already so i called his house and he answered the phone.. I asked him why didn't he text me. I waited all day and he made me worry so much. He just shrugged off then told me t didn't come to his mind. That really hurts coz Everyday of my life i haven't forgotten to think of him and update him.Then the worst is I discovered that he broke for the 4th time his promise (which has the condition of me breaking up with him). I felt so in pain because I dunno what to do.. I dont wanna break up with him so I decided for the cool off---> (no communication for a certain time to both reflect)

Then after 2 days of "cool off"I heard that he thinks I have other guy I'm into besides him from his friend.. That also hurts because i told him that I'll wait for his answer after leaving him alone for a month. It's up to his decision to let go of me or try to bring me back.. well.. my purpose of the cool off is to know if he really loves me and wouldn't allow me to leave him. i love him so much that it really depresses m thinking that he'll make no effort to win me back. what do you think he reallly feels? is this just a onesided love? I wnna hear opinions from you good people of yedda

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Posted 2009-10-12T18:31:11Z
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talico33

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Hi Edliz,

I just read your post and my impression is that it is probably too early for you to feel so much for your boyfriend. I don't think that he sounds ready to be in a relationship and still has a lot to learn. In my opinion, you should end it for good and move on. Don't focus all your time and energy on a boy right now. You are young and have so much to experience still.

Posted 2009-10-12T21:19:25Z

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Hi
I can’t help you find an answer, but I suggest you change the topics to your question. This way we can send your question to people who have expressed an explicit interest in the relevant topics.
To change the topics of your question, click the “edit” link below the question.

Posted 2009-10-13T07:43:27Z

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edliz he is playing you.You are young play the field .There are too many fish in the sea

Posted 2009-10-13T07:50:49Z

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The key to making a relationship work is communication. "Cooling off" periods where you don't speak for a few days just makes the situation worse. You are both young. Too young to know how to handle a relationship. You can't get mad and not speak to each other whenever something doesn't go your way or you simply can't get ahold of him when you would like to. Learn to communicate better with each other. Talk through your problems and try to resolve any issues you are having. If you want things to work, try to get closer to him, not distance yourself.

Posted 2009-10-24T17:26:14Z

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