I hbear41ave been married for 15 years. Over the last several years i have had several major reconstructive cervical spine surgeries. Afterwhich. I had a normal sex desire and had no problems with obtaining an orgasm. The only hold up was my husband's fear having sex would further damage my spine. The neuro surgeon even told him it was okay but he needed time to become a believer. We never had this problem before either . Now my husband's desire is back but i can't climax. I have used otc creams, toys, sexy lingerie. I think its going to happen then nothing. I am tired of faking, i think my husband knows deep in his heart its not the same for me. The only other changes is that i have lost 50 pounds since surgery which was unintentional. I am also propabley approaching the start of perimenapause. Any suggestions???????? I love my husband but i am afraid one of us will eventually stray to see if this just what it will be like as we age. I am also wondering could a high surgical repair of the spine have altered my pelvic alignment or anatomy willing to try anything
