Or we could just be nasty and spew your kind of "help" when someone asks for it. But you know what? Your laundry list of "things I have overcome" was just that...things that could be overcome.  These things have an end to them. They did not start out at the least pain and get worse with no end in sight.  You may have physically pulled yourself up, but you must hurt badly to strike out at someone the way you did.

And I am really curious how you came to decide that Alice does not hold a high power job, work in her yard, give tothose around her,but has no relief from the pain.  I worked through pain until weakness put a stop to it, but I get up every day and take care of my daughter and our home. And I moved every 15 mos to 3 years largely alone.  Point is that neither of us knows her situation and should try yo help her solve the problem she came to this group.

I grew up in a Marine house and married one after that and my observation from living that life is that instead of ever offering compassion, you turn the attention to yourself.  You make it all about you and your accomplishments.  I am happy for you to rise above; however, your anger is not helpful to anyone, least of all someone who opened her broken heart in search for someone to help her have some quality of life. She did not whine about how bad she feels and then finish by asking you to hand her a bon bon.

It baffles me still when I see someone trot out a Bible verse to substantiate views, while ignoring the very root of Christianity.  Maybe something more uplifting in your Bible study. If compassion is hard for you to muster for the sick, don't read things that are offensive to you.  Look for Vets or business questions...something you feel comfortable reading and answering. There really is something here for everyone.  Take care and God bless. P