Health and sex

Hi,

You be supportive and maybe start pleasing yourself in the mean time. May by pleasuring yourself it can help you get through the rough period of his sickness. there are many toys you can get to please yourself.

I venture to guess that this loss of sex drive, is more an "inability" due to the meds and his conditions.  He must feel awful, but won't show it, or maybe he does show it.  I think you need to support him, and perhaps not let the sex issue be so important.  You can hold each other all night long, just being close is beautiful, but pls don't pressure him, that will make matters worse. (May I say, you can also take care of yourself, sexually, that would relieve some tension for you.)  Pls be patient, Love is more important than sex and I believe he really needs you to understand his situation.  Best Regards to both of you

Hi Tammy,

   OronD gave you an excellent answer, as always.  Yes with all those 3 diagnoses, those really are not going to help a man perform sexually.  You can be honest and ask your husband to please you sexually aside fro sexual intercourse.  You  and your husband know them and it's time to be creative.  It's a good advice to pleasure yourself.  But I think he will enjoy it more if he helped you obtain pleasure with his help. 

     Cuddling and just being close will also make you closer.  Your kindness, compassion and not making sexual  demands will relieve his low self-esteem due to his inability to perform sexually.

    Encourage him to always take all his medications so he will be on his way to wellness again.

    Take care and keep that smile on your face.

Aurgh!!  Not taking his meds will only worsen the situation.     If your husband has had diabetes for a long time and it has not been in good control, then impotence is a probable cause of his "lack of desire".  Also, depression can be paralyzing too.  The meds for depression would be the first ones I would experiment with (under the doctor's supervision).  Depression is treatable, but it can take some time to find a drug that works well for him.  He MUST take care of the diabetes!!   He should be testing his BG 3 times a day and taking his insulin religiously!!  The same goes for high BP.  There are so many meds out there, and sometimes it takes a few used together to get your blood pressure where it needs to be.  He is risking some really serious complications later on if he doesn't take care of himself.  Be a part of his medical needs.  Give him a vacation week where you give him his injections, test his blood for him and give him his pills.  It can really make you feel less alone to have someone there helping you through it all.

And don't stop touching him.  Just because he either doesn't want