For may years from the 1950's on through it has been that the female gender is atracted to the fake strong tuogh guy extierior in what is why they find out sometimes when it is too late that the male in question is a compleate ass to them or to family or friends , to the point of when they cheat on the female also in question...
This also goes as far as to where the female sees only the fake confedance of the male may protray in what is not really there, what is really there is unsureness , lack of confedance in them , trying to be some one in who they are not in what intales the famous phrase or word or saying Impressing the opposite sex for their own selffish sexual intent , not wanting to know the female in a true honest relationship in what also leads to the other , real famous phrase , sayings > one night stand > hit it , quit it > wham bam thank you mam.....
That leads to phylogical , emotional pain , that also leads to depperession, self doubt for , with in the female.
And to where the female still in question not only feels used , like an idiot at times not loved by anyone , easy as well as mny other emotional , painfull things. Yet of what happened to them is not totaly their fault at all in what again has the female reexamine her self with in her, what she needs , feels , wants for herself in a relationship, person, for her future etc...
That leads to where she becomes more caucious , carefull of who she chooses to be with , goes about things , what she does in essance keeps her guard up .
That may not make sence to many at first but it does in reality , its normal to be that way no matter what anyone says or thinks.