Hi, my divorce will be final this week, have never posted before. I, too, am i a similar situation. My husband cheated on me (although still not admitting to it), but regardless, he did. He sent me divorce papers in October, left in August, started "talking" to this girl in July. I am a spiritual person and wanted to do the right thing in God's eyes. After praying and being a mess for months, I began dating about a month after receiving the papers. In my husband's eyes, the marriage was over. I looked to the Bible for answers...it says the only way to divorce one another is because of adultery or being married to a non-believer. I felt horrible at that time, everyone said it was too early to become involved with anyone, but I did start dating. I felt in God's eyes that I didnt need the paperwork, my soon to be ex had already made the decision to commit adultery and leave me. I had to make my own decision and pray about it. But having a companion and someone to be there for me has helped me so much. However, be careful, I know that i still have to take the time to heal, find myself as an individual, and get myself established. I dont know if that helped....read your Bible regarding divorce and pray about it. Every situation is different. Good luck...