Girlfriend Hiding the fact that Man is staying over w/ her

You aren't making any sense!  1st...why are you discussing marriage?  And in the same breath stating that your gf sleeping with another guy might just turn you on?  2nd...you two aren't communicating!  The #1 important ingredient in marriage.  3rd...Do you understand that marriage means forsaking all others?  People don't bother to follow their marriage vows, then wonder why they are headed for divorce!  C'mon now!!!  It is obvious to me that neither of you are prepared for marriage.  Mature some more before you consider something so important.  And if you plan to live an alternative lifestyle, leave marriage out of it!

If you say that you do not care if she sleeps with other guys , you guys are not totaly serius with each other she does not have to tell you athing that is the truth , unfortunant but its the fact so in that sense you should not be with her if you are that unsure , not trusting of her , your self.

Cuz in order to trust her you must trust you first the same is said about if you love her or anyone as well as many other emotional things.

So go find someone you can trust if you can not trust you , then her.

First, you are absolutely right about trust. But girl friend is not on that page, and you know what? She may never be. Perhaops she's trying to tell you in a subtle way there is someone else. Although that's hardly subtle. Confront her, let her know you know what's going on. Once its all out in the open, you'll figure out which way to go. Oh, and one more thing, that's not love because believe me if the shoe were on the other foot she would feel so smug about it. Do what needs to be done so you can get on with your life. There's a real lady out there somewhere who will be what you are hoping to find. 

If that is the case thwen leave her , you will soon find a woman that wants you , no one else.

I know it may be hard to but it will be worth it as you let it take its course after you leave the one that wants to sleep with other freaks in the male gender , not only be for you , you only.

    Boy! That makes for an intense challenge. Almost all of us go throught this type of situation. When ever we are faced with difficult, hightly emotional challenges, like yours, there is only one way to deal with it. Answer these questions, and you will know what to do. Who are you, and what do you stand for? You are looking at this situation from a FEAR standpoint. Fear and doubt are always the challenge; but, within this are all of the answers as well. I don't mean to sound to "flighty," but the fact of the matter is that this situation is showing you what you believe about yourself, and your environment.

        When we begin to understand our own creative power, then we can begin to take responsability for our affect on ourself, the universe, and each other. It is through these very challenges that we eventually find JOY; and I don't mean joy in the biblical sense. I'm speaking of INNER JOY.

        Learn who you are. Learn to be confident, because you know who you are. Learn to be FEARLESS, because you know you create your own reality! If you are sure of who you are, then you need not worry about what she may, or may not be doing, or thinking; because, you are confident and strong within your self, and the questions you have will disolve.

                   With Affection and Understanding,

                                                     A Friend