Girl friend advice

You screwed up.  You were disrespectful to her, and she justifiably got pissed.  Now what you did isn't a big deal to you or me, and we'd probably get over it pretty quickly, unless it was one of a series of episodes.

It could have been that while you were gone, rumors got spread, and suspicions raised.

In hindsight, what you should have done was take them both along so your friends could have gotten to know each other better sitting in the back seat together.

well, your girl friend probably feels like you ditched her even if YOU think you didn't. Maybe you should just talk to her and try to get it staightened our you know? I mean people i know always have problems like this and in the end everyone is fine again. itll work itself out hopefully.

Hi,
Your behavior was rude, not smart, not sensetive, not considerative, and with no respect (no offence please).......  if you do it to each one of your future girlfriends I'm afraid you'll remain alone.....  Any girlfriend wants to feel that she is in the first place and all you do is transparent and together with her.....  If you had to talk to your friend you should have done it some time else, when she is not around.  The best you can do is discuss it with her, plead guilty, tell her you were wrong, you realize now that it was a BIG mistake, appologise, tell her you learnt the lesson and you promise it will never happend again.   Be smart and sensetive in chosing your words.  I appologise if I was too direct. 
Best regards,

You were extremely insensitive to her feelings. I have found that when friends break off the reason is usually not the entire reason but the culmination of a number of things. In other words, you probably have hurt her a number of times without knowing because she did not react. This was like the straw that broke the camel's back. If her friendship is really important to you, try to get her to meet with you privately, apologize and let her tell you about everything that has made her so upset with you.

I don't want to say you screwed up like the one guy... but yeah, you did. Girls need to feel emotionally attached to their significant other and when a girl feels ditched, it might not be just because you left, it can be of a build up of things or because of something that happened in their past. Feeling left out or abandoned is a terrible feeling, and I am guessing you have probably never felt it to the extent that she has. Otherwise I am sure you would be more compelled to sympathize with her. You should know that you probably did not do anything "horrible" but it might seem horrible to her at the time, and you being her boyfriend, she probably never wants to have that feeling from you. Whatever the extent of your relationship, you have made a commitment of some sort to her (or you would not be together) and whatever your intentions, she should come first, or you should not be with her. Likewise, if it was HER friend that your friend was interested in, do you not think your girlfriend should have been involved in the conversation? And how old are you? I think that at your age you should not be having guy chats to talk about girls.... your friend should probably be at a maturity level to talk to a girl he is interested in and let her know. Even if he has not come to be mature enough for this, YOU should be mature enough to not play games and ditch your girlfriend, regardless if her friend was there or not. The reason she thought you lied is most likely because you snuck off.. otherwise why should she not have been able to go, with respect to the fact that "guys talking about girls" is not a justifiable excuse for this. This sneaky shit is what will get you in trouble in the long run. If she feels that you are going to hide something so small and simple from her I bet she probably thinks that you will hide other things from her. It creates distrust and suspiscion, and you can not blame her if she doesn't trust you. If she clearly stated that she wanted to go, it probably was not to keep tabs on you, it was probably because she likes your company. Think about it. Peace

ummm....it was a little rude to leave your girlfriend, but i don't think you lied about anything and it's not that big a deal. So she shouldn't be that mad. 

Ohhh..... hunn you got in too deep. You should have just told her you guys wanted to talk, and not have just left. Really i don't blamn her for feeling like that since you did not tell her why you didn't want her to ride along. Just like say your sorry but, be clever about it, like send her a pizza with pep. saying sorry, or something better then that. If someone did that for me i would deff. forgive you(: have faith!!! She will forgive you.

Sneaking out, by its very sneakiness, gives the impression you are doing something wrong. You could leave your house and go straight to confession, but when you sneak there, the perception is that you're up to no good. That's the first hurdle.

The second is that your girlfriend is now living under the assumption that you don't trust HER. I totally get that you and your friend needed some time to talk about things - and everyone should have the right to talk privately with their friends - but to her, she very likely sees this in a very black and white way: "He didn't trust me to be in his conversation AND he didn't trust me to be able to handle him wanting to be alone with his friend, SO HE SNUCK OUT!"  You can see where feeling like this would cause her to become very defensive and start to question many other things, fairly or not.

I don't think, just knowing this information, that this is an unsurmountable situation, but the thing you most need to do is make sure she knows that you understand why she feels the way she does. No apology can come across as sincere if the apolgizer behaves as though the whole thing is ridiculous. Explain to her that it wasn't your intent to ditch her and that your friend just really needed to talk to you about something he was too embarrassed to address in front of anyone else. Let her know that you now realize that sneaking out wasn't a good choice because it showed a lack of trust in her and tell her you now definitely see how all of your actions can affect her. Promise to be more considerate in the future. This really is all you can do and the rest is up to her.

Good luck!