Getting over your parents divorce

I think that depending on how the divorce went, and what age you were when it happened, it will effect different people differently.  Of course, people who dealt with violence between their parents, verbal abuse, constant fighting, getting the children involved, etc... these people will be effected for their entire lives.  For more normal divorce situations, I think that this still effects the individuals, because that good example of a relationship (seeing their parents success in a relationship) isn't there for the person.  People can feel like they will fail in any relationship they have, because their parents failed.  There are many problems that people can have for their whole lives from a parents' divorce.

Of course your parents' divorce is going to affect you at any age. It is difficult for anyone to go through no matter how old they are. Knowing that your parents are together, and happily married, is a comfort that you have lived with for most of your life. Having a family of your own, you probably used to see your parents as an example to look up to and their failing marriage might scare you a little. Talk to them about it. Figure out what their reasons are. If you understand their motivations in getting a divorce then perhaps you will become more comfortable and accepting of the situation.

Only in the sense that you learned something positive from it that will aid you in your relationships with men.

Your parents' divorce will always affect you no matter how old you are and how old you get.  It's a dissolution of your immediate family and that never feels good.  It helps if your parents have remained friendly but in a lot of cases that just doesn't happen.  My parents legally separated when they were in their 70s and it hurt me emotionally.  I was 46 years old.  My divorce hurt my kids I know, but somehow we all have to cope with it.  Just know it had nothing to do with you; people grow apart over time and some just can't handle living a lie.  It's all so unfortunate, but it happens.  Know that you aren't alone in your feelings about it.