I married a man and adopted his 6 year old daughter. Her biological Mother passed away when she was just 2, so I am all she has ever known as her Mom. The other day she came to me with something she called a 'secret', and asked me not to tell her daddy. (a boy asked her to kiss him) the dirty rat!
Anyway, one of the things I love most about my marriage is the open communication I have with my husband, I can tell him anything.. and he still loves me! So my question is, how can I be a trust-worthy mom who my daughter, (his) daughter can always confide in and talk to, without betraying my husband?? What if he would find out about some 'secret' I am keeping from him reguarding her? And then on the other hand, if she knew I would tell her dad everything she told me, she might not tell me anything and I'd never know what was going on in her life! I feel stuck between them both. I feel like either way, I have to choose who I will betray! Please tell me, what in the world should I do??? Thank you!