I was friends with a married couple that I met through my cousin and her husband. The wife and my cousin got into an argument, and broke off the friendship. I stayed friends with them, but I broke off my friendship with them because the wife is a compulsive liar and manipulator. The husband however wanted to stay friends, but we could only talk when he got off work for half an hour. I knew his wife was very dominant and controlling, so I agreed and I considered ourselves close friends. Then about a week ago, Ihe calls me and tells me he was going to ask his wife if she wanted to try and be friends with my cousin and her husband again. Then he says that because me and his wife do not get along, that maybe it would be better if I was not discussed or did not show up at my cousins gatherings. I was completely hurt and have been depressed ever since because I have been there for him as much as I could, and even prevented him from hurting himself when he was depressed, but to hear him say that was like ripping my heart out! He said its because his son missed my cousin's son and wanted them to be friends again. Frankly, I don't believe him, and called my cousin. She was furious because she said they had no right to telll her who she could and could not see, and then callled him and told him either everyone tries to get along or things stay as they are. He then called me and said he would just leave things as they are, and that he still wants to be friends with me. However, when I called him the other day, he sounded agitated and said he only had a minute or two, then said his boss was calling and hung up on me. We have not spoken since. My problem is I consider him a good friend, but he ALWAYS hurts me. And now knowing that he wanted me to disappear to be friends with my cousin and her husband just hurt me beyond anything I ever felt. It was like being stabbed in the heart, and this is not the first time he has done this, but I always forgive him. I need to know is this friendship toxic and I should let him go as a friend, or should I try and save the friendship and hope it gets better?
